A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have met a women at work she is 28 and i am 21, we started talking frequently and it has turned daily during lunch breaks etc i have got to know her alot and begun to have feelings for her, she is very beautiful so i did not tell her how i felt, (i thought she was out of my league).. then it became interesting as she recently admitted to me that she has feelings for me and she can tell i do for her too, but she says 'we cannot do anything about it' because she has a boyfriend already.. she rarely see's him and i know from previous conversations shes not to interested in him, i am positive it is the age difference she is worried about because she has made comments about it such as 'i wish u was older' how do i get her mindset to the fact age doesnt matter.. why do people worry so much about age for id like some advice on how i can talk to her about it and aproach her about it thanks in advance.
View related questions:
at work, has a boyfriend, she has a boyfriend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): Some people stay in a relationship "out of habit" - if this is the case it will probably not be long before she gets out of it when an alternative shows up. But I don't see the logic of even confessing she has feelings for you if she says she cannot act on them, let's say it was a slip. Take care, she could be after two hares and this does not speak well of her. Don't cross this territory and don't be more than friendly with her until you have a clear path.
A
female
reader, Legioness +, writes (7 March 2009):
 I guess it's a matter of not talking her into thinking age doesn't matter, show her, prove it to her, just be yourself, try not to worry about it, take her out, do something romantic, she'll soon see that age doesn't mean anything :) x
...............................
|
