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writes:my guy watches porn but not just any porn he watches foot fetish porn, gay porn and midget porn he has a serious foot fetish and he likes sucking cock (but isnt gay)and he says he would love to fuck a midget but how do i deal with this?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Sounds like he's watched so much porn he can only become aroused by the extreme things. Don't make a big issue of it. He's never gonna give a man a bj or have sex with a midget. I would just say causally "baby, you got to cut back on your porn, or next you'll only get aroused by the weirdest stuff in town. I think porn is starting to turn your head a little bit funny".
He hasn't got a fetish. He's overdosed on porn..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi I know he watches it because I found it on his laptop and when I asked him he came clean and told me about it he says he's never been this honest with anyone before but that just made me feel worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): He seems to be attracted to several things that could be a fetish. (FYI: Usually a fetish is something that's elevated to a point where the person MUST have it as part of the sex act to get off - he may be a bit short, or not, we can't tell).He also like to give BJ's- so there's some level is bi-sexual action going on, and he's not gay, as he's attracted to you and having sex with you.How do you deal with it? First, you need to DECIDE if you want to deal with it, and then decide how you would like your ideal sexual life to look. Then negotiate. You'll have to be willing to allow him to have some of his desires met, he some of yours. It's a give and take... and you do have the right to establish the boundaries. If him bringing home a clown car full of little people, blowing some while suck another's toes is beyond your limits, that's FINE! You also need to set boundaries as to any activities that you both will not be present at, and define what is cheating, and the consequences for cheating.Find a happy middle ground, of find a partner capable of making you happy.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 I find most people are touchy around the whole fetish thing. Either you're OK with it or it's a squick. Only you know the answer in this case.
If you're not creeped out by his fetishes, the next question to ask yourself is whether you can accommodate his fantasies within the relationship or if he's going to go outside the relationship. And if the latter, if you're OK with it.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (5 September 2010):
 This isnt the easiest thing for you to deal with , can i ask how do you know he watches these things? If he is telling you all these things then i think he is putting an unneeded amount of stress on you. If he is in a comminted relationship with you he should not be saying he would want sex with any other person i think you need to talk about him about what he really wants, a relationship or to take part in this sexual fantasies.
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