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writes:Hey everyone.....so got a problem with a teacher, he's not mean to me or anyhting like that but since I've had him as I teacher we've got closer and I've developed feelings for him.It all started the first day I had him for class. We didn't really talk at the start.At the end of class he started to talk to me as I left saying he knows my brother. We joke with each other, like joke slabbering and stuff like that but we also talk about more serious things. I was having problems with Chemistry,he's my history teacher, and I was really upset about it 'cause the exams were coming up and I was getting really stressed, he noticed this a talked to me about it and told me how to cope with the exams.I get along with him more than any other teachers and he doesn't act with anyone else like the way he acts with me. On the last day we were talking and he lent in close to me and put his had on my back and spoke into my ear.I know what i can and cannot do, I just wanted to know if anyone else has this problem and how they cope,'cause it's summer now and I have nomore school until August and i keep thinking about him.ThanksExtra InfoI'm 14 and he's in his late 30s early 40s.He's not married and no kids.
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reader, MeridianStar +, writes (25 July 2009):
1. Go out with friends as much as possible, so you're not stuck at home brooding by yourself.2. Join a club or try and get a job/work experience in your area to help you meet new people. It could be helpful if this is history related (which might be difficult) as you will then have an opportunity to talk about how much you love history without everyone looking at you like you're mad :) This might make it more difficult at first, as you will constantly be thinking about how no-one compares to this guy, but as you get to know people you will find it helps take your mind off things.3. As the wallflower said, try and do things that distract you and use up time like reading and watching films. There's nothing worse than spending whole days on end with nothing to do except think about how you'd rather be at school. If you take up a hobby, try and make it something that requires your full concentration (not like drawing, for example, where you can still think about other things)4. Go outside! It might not take your mind off things, but you'll still feel better for it.5. If none of this works, try just daydreaming about him and thinking about how great he is and how lucky you are to know him. If you're going to think about him all the time, it might as well be in a happy way.6. Look forward to going back to school again! When the end of the holidays come, everyone else will be miserable and you can revel in being the only one who's pleased about it :)Whatever you do, DO NOT do anything stupid like stalking him or constantly Google searching his name or anything. It never works (I've tried :P) and it will only make you feel terrible about yourself (plus it's horribly awkward when you have to go back to school and see him again...)This goes for Hopeless Happiness and anyone else in a similar situation as well. Good luck!
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reader, Hopeless Happiness. +, writes (20 July 2009):
I know how you feel, I'm in a similar position.Just think that he wouldn't want you to be down. He'd wanna see the happy you, having fun and living life. I know it's difficult when they're all you think about, believe me. But dont get sucked into the trap of staying indoors constantly thinking about it; it sucks. Try and get out, have a laugh maybe. Go for walks, bike ride, anything that gives you more freedom and takes your mind off of things.Do what I've done, make a mini calendar and count down. Each time you've done a day you'll feel so proud, trust me. But dont get obsessed with it, or time will just go slower.Good luck, hope things work out (Y)xx :) xx
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reader, the wallflower  +, writes (18 July 2009):
Hi,
I've got the same problem. What's worse is that I've just found out that he's leaving our school. I'm feeling devastated.
Well, I would suggest trying to distract yourself by watching films, reading, going out with friends maybe? I know it's very difficult not to think of him but if you keep on thinking about the long time you have to wait you'll end up feeling very depressed.
I wish you luck and hope you'll be able to enjoy the holidays. xxx :)
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 i wish i knew. trust me. i'm in a pretty similar situation.i've been trying hang out with friends and see movies as mush as possible, but it hasn't been working. maybe you could try? sorry. i guess i can't be of much help. :-/
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 You know the answer already.There is no way you can have a relationship with this man.I don`t know what to tell you to put him out of your mind ,but I would suggest you put your friendship with him in the cooler till your not so emotionally attached.Look at him as a father figure/friend. It can be no more than this.And as you see more you need to step away for awhile.Maybe its a good thing you are on summer leave.When I was 21 I had a relationship with a 14 year old and it has ruined my life.So even with the remote chance he may be interested in you do both of you a favor and forget him.Focus on anything to take your mind off him.Friends, family, activities , or maybe boys closer to your own age.
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reader, daz uk +, writes (17 July 2009):
you are only a kid and need to stop the crush you have on your teacher if the teacher went along with this he will lose his job and it just sounds like he is a good teacher and you need to find a boy and give him a few kisses over the summer
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