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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My husband and I have been together 11 years. We are young "under 30" and he hides the fact that he looks at porn. He doesnt watch porn and wont watch a porn with me but goes behind my back and looks up this one specific model with big breasts all the time behind my back. I first noticed his obsession with her when he ot back from Iraq. There were pics of her all over his laptop. I didnt think too much about it because he had been away from me for 15 months but even now he has been home less than 6 months and behind my back looks at her on his phone or our home computer which he erases everything from, like Im stupid and just think he is curtious enough to clean up the hard drive! LOL! Tonite I came home from work and he pretty much jumped on me as soon as I got into bed, I was flattered at first until his phone beeped a while later I went to push the button to make it shut up and his background pic was no longer me but replaced by this fucking girl! So curiosity killing me I looked threw his pictures and sure enough a ton of them popped up of her. I wouldnt be so upset but Im built very well and I have the large breasts he loves so much, so why am I not enough? Also he was looking at pics on his phone when I got home. now that I know what pics were on there I feel like he was having sex with me but fantasizing of her. Our relationship was going so good and now I just feel dirty, not good enough and betrayed that he got all horny looking at her before I got home and then fulfilled his fantasy with my body! I want to be enough and I feel like no matter how big my boobs or how in shape or how sweet and tempting I am I will never completly satisify him. Why is he doing this? Why am I not enough? Will he ever grow out of this? How do I get along with him and fight my urge to attack him in anger?
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 Porn in a relationship is always iffy, and people always feel differently. I however am like you, and would feel exactly as you do right now. I think you should talk to him about this, and tell him exactly how you're feeling. It's awful to feel like you're coming in second place in your own relationship, especially to a porn star who might as well not exist! Not only is it disrespectful for everything he owns with a connection to the internet to be littered with pictures of her, but it's as though he isn't thinking of your feelings at all. Put your foot down, you shouldn't have to feel bad about yourself, or that you're not good enough to fantasize about. Get him to see your points, and see his as well. I hope you can both come to an agreeable decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): why not dump this loser...file for divorce and find a life with a man who appreciates a real woman...how are you going to feel after some babies, stretch marks and believe me your boobs will change...you will get older and he will still be wanking over the image of this woman...do yourself a favour and find a man who sees YOU as his fantasy woman...even as you mature and change...
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