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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my now ex for over 5 years and he has told me that he cheated on me two days ago. I have split up and am moving out at the moment. He is still on his holidays where it all happened.I was suspecting him that he wanted to cheat for a long time and I have reasons to believe that he was planning to cheat on that trip "to get it out of his system", as he was very young when we met and only had 3 girls before. I can't trust him and am disgusted with him, but of course I still love him. How can I make sure that I won't give him another chance. I am a softie and whenever he hurt im in different ways, I forgave him.I am scared of bein alone and starting a new life.I love him so much, but I can't even look at him at his moment because he hurt me so much.He called me several times to apologize and was crying, but the last call was pretty cool. I feel so used.
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reader, Cat_87 +, writes (14 September 2008):
 Cheating is such a hard thing to deal with, usually when someone is cheated on they often blame themselves which makes the situation even harder to deal with. I suggest u be strong, surround yourself with positive things. When i had 2 deal with a difficult break up i kept going to my phone to call him so i took the brave move of giving my phone to my mum, i got her to take his number just in case of emergencies but i deleted it off my cell, i deleted his facebook and his e-mail address.I suggest you do the same give yourself some head space, get back with girly mates who will pamper you and cheer u up when you cry. I also gave myself 2 days of crying and "grieving" then after that i got up and got my friends around me. Eat lots of ice cream and listen to the song Suvivour by Beyonce then get yourself back out there! Dance the night away, meet boys that are bad for you and become stronger in time! The best revenge is you becoming strong and succesful! You seem like an intelligent young caring woman who can do so much better than that jerk! Good Luck x x x btw i did all of the above and within a month he called me asking for me back because he could see me living without him i was strong enough to say no and that felt so so good!
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