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writes:Hello I am 17 year old girlMy mom unexpectedly died due to a sever cardiac stroke when I was hoping recovery.I had completed faith in God and believed very strongly my mom would be back soon Healthy.I myself am a tarot card reader and astrologer numerologist with veru strong intuition.I did a number of remedies to have my mother healed.Now I have a family of one person that is my father and me .I was very close to my mom being a single child.I used to spend 24 hours a day with her.Now I feel hurt be treated by the God and completely lost.In every memory I seem to remember my Mom.I feel life is hopeless now.Also I used to give my mom hope that she will be well soon.SoI am guilty of keeping everybody's hopes high.Its a complete shock for me.I used to share everything with my mother.She was a very strong lady.How do I cope with with loneliness and utter despair.I am studying for mbbs and is planning to shift in the college soon. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2020): one of my daughter's friends asked I how I dealt with my mother's death because it happed to her.For me....For about ten years I cried.After that instead of crying I would think about something that reminds me of her and now I smile.I know she is with me all the time.She would want you to be happy so just try.Time will help I promise.If you have something of hers to keep close to you that helps too.I had a locket of my mom's hair.Some people asked if I was afraid wearing it.No I was not because my mother would never hurt me.Do well in life make her proud of you.I already am proud of you because you are a strong person.It will be alright in time I promise.You are in my prayers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2020): HiSo sorry for the place you must be in now, I know it's a painful place and an emptiness that you think will never leave. I used to hate hearing those words ' time will heal' but it will ease and you will come out of the dark place you find yourself.Please accept that you have no responsibility for the why's or whens' of your mothers passing, God decided to call her, and off she went. I would strongly suggest that you try and make every day a good day, a day that makes mum proud of you by being positive and moving forward with your life. My father once said to me when I was young 'the grave is for the living' move forward like they have. Do nice things to help you heal, write journals and memoirs and say prayers, a great comfort when we are bereaved. God will take care of your mum, as he will you if you let him, don't blame him, understand him. God bless you and yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2020): Oh, sweetheart, I am so very sorry for your loss. We try to convey through words our sympathy for someone's loss of a loved-one; but words take too much time to sink-in and really bring comfort. So I will add prayer for the comfort that only God can give.
As long as we live in our skinsuits as human beings; we will never understand the ways of God. He only wants us to learn to love and appreciate Him. If we serve Him, we lovingly obey Him. We don't have to, if we don't want to. You are too young to understand all I will say; but I offer it to you to help you. I also help others who bother to read my answers.
I expect disbelievers to scoff at your belief in God, blasphemously question Him, and put His righteousness to the test! If He's so good, or if He exists, why did He let her die? God is sovereign, He is the Creator of all things. He doesn't have to conform to our logic, compete with mankind's scientific-knowledge, or bow to our arrogant and haughty criticisms. It is perilous and dangerous to defy Him. He is still God Almighty, no matter how you feel about Him. He remains being God, whether you choose to believe in Him or not! He is good beyond human-understanding, merciful without limitation, He is omnipotent, omniscient, and He does as He pleases. He does answer prayers, He does not respond to wishes like a genie. Sometimes He may not seem to answer, or He will answer your prayer in an unexpected way. Whether we like that or not, that's His choice. We mere mortals can do nothing about it, and He forgives us when we hate Him for it. He knows we're only human. After all, He made us! He more than restores our lost faith, comforts us, and will bless us abundantly. Even those who don't even believe there is a God! He loves us that much! We wonder why good things still happen to bad-people. He loves us all. You do whatever you please with the things that are yours. Right? You still loved your mom, even when she didn't do all the things you wanted her to, or give you everything you asked her for. Right?
I lost my mother at exactly the same age. She had a cancerous brain tumor. The cancer had spread to her lymph nodes and lungs by the time it was diagnosed. She was only 42, and the youngest of us was only two years-old! My family is also a family of faith, and a Christian-family. We also prayed real hard that she'd recover by a miracle; and my older-sister was somewhat like you in feeling God was unfair not to be more merciful to have answered these prayers. We still had each other, a loving father, and God was still lovingly caring for us. My dad found a wonderful nanny, whom we all love and cherish to this day. She's in her 90's now! Now dad has passed too. The cycle of life completes, sooner or later. We grieve those we lose, and that is normal. Sweetheart, stay close to your father. He loves you too! Continue clinging to God, and don't allow darkness to pull you away from Him. Not everyone will respond to your post in a spiritual-sense. You may read only those answers if you wish.
You have to be careful about divination. It is not to be combined with serving God. He didn't punish you for doing so; because that's the first thing someone would assume. Divination works with and ascribes to a spiritualism in opposition to God. Consorting with spirits whom you might think you understand or can control; who can also do whatever they please, except challenge God Himself. He allows us to make mistakes and forgives us. Through grace and mercy, and through His Holy Spirit, He brings us knowledge and wisdom to learn what we should and shouldn't do. He came down in the flesh, to experience what we feel; and to save us. They called Him Jesus. He was killed, but Christians know He rose from death. We are called Christians for this belief. He gives us strength for resistance when we are too weak to defend or help ourselves. He lets us know through the scriptures in the Bible what pleases and displeases Him. He leaves us the freedom to choose Him, or something else. He doesn't have to bend His will to please us. He loves to bless us, and give us good things.
Like our earthly-kings, presidents, and leaders; He leads and has laws we must follow. If you disobey a king, you are punished or killed. If you disobey the law, you might be imprisoned. You might even be sentenced to death. You can't just do as you please; because even the laws of man doesn't allow you to. You can't tell a judge to go fly a kite, when you stand before him/her in his/her court of law. You can't just walk-away from the police; when you've committed a crime, and you're under arrest. Nor can you do things against God's rules; and dismiss Him like He's nobody. Arrogance against God and His laws have consequences too! If you rely on other sources of spiritualism; He will withhold His answers, until you choose Him over the other. He does not negotiate, He is unmatched, and refuses to compete with idols for our affections. He is a jealous God and He admits it! Why should He compete with anything else in His place, when He created heaven and earth? With all the power He has in His hands, who else could you possibly need? If you serve or communicate with other spirits, how do you know if they won't hurt or deceive you? God is divine! He opposes magic, witchcraft, and sorcery.
I urge you to be careful when delving in the world of divination. You don't know what doors you open, or what you may be dealing with. You can't have God and that too. He won't allow it. He will step-back and wait until you decide to be faithful and true to Him, and Him only. You can't circumvent His will, or find ways to make Him change His mind. People may not like that, but He'll leave you to whatever you want to believe. He's God! As I've said, He can and will do as He pleases. He loves us in spite of our weaknesses and bad-behavior.
We became closer as a family during our grief. We have our family-problems. We work them out. We lost a sister last year to complications of lupus. We're healing, and remain close as a family. Our faith strengthens us, and in spite of the nasty things unbelievers think or say; I know what I've been through, and have recovered from...if it were not for His goodness and grace! Even after all the bad things I've done, said, or thought; He has forgiven, blessed, and protected me. I should be dead! I have lost people and things I cherish; but all I've lost is restored, or replaced with something better. I am usually heal from pain and injury by faith and prayer; and I don't expect bad-things to never happen. A true Christian knows loving and serving God doesn't mean you'll never suffer, and bad-things will never happen to you. We know that when bad things do happen, He's there with us. He will usher you through hardest of times, quiet the storms in our lives, He will dry your tears, He will bring godly-people to your rescue, He will give you strength; and overwhelm you with His love and peace. Don't be disappointed. Everyone will die someday. You and me...everybody!
Grief takes time to overcome. Losing your mother is one of the hardest, if not the worst, thing you'll ever experience. Having been through it, and loving my mom as much we did/do; I can tell you, you never stop missing her. Your grief becomes more bearable with time. No-one can replace her, and she remains deeply held within your heart. She never leaves your memories, and she has purposely deposited her love deep within you; so you'll never forget how much she cared for you, and cherished you. She no longer suffers pain, or has to witness the ugliness that we see in the world. I pray the Lord grants you and your family relief from your pain.
Not everyone will respond to your post in this way. You have the right to overlook and ignore my post. I offer my prayers and heartfelt-condolences to you all the same. When I tell an OP I will say a prayer for them, I actually do it. I'm not one of those people who just say I'll do it.
May the Lord guide you, may He protect you from things that will bring you any harm, may He give you His peace, and may your grief be short.
God bless and protect you, sweetheart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2020): I'm sorry to hear you lost your mom.
My mom died when I was 20, so I know how it feels. I had no dad, but I had a woman that used to look after me when I was a kid, whom I loved like a mother.
It's awful.
It hurts so bad.
What helped me is being strong for people who loved me and my mom, staying "on the path", finishing my studies...
My mom died suddenly, she wasn't ill and yet I KNEW she was going to die. I knew even when. Not the date, but a period. When the day come and I told her goodbye I knew I was looking at her for the last time and I knew that she had known too. She was psychic too, that way.
I often thought why I had just accepted this knowledge without doing anything like you. I mean I took her to the doctors and specialist and everybody had given her a clean bill of health.
When someone dies, there's a big whole he or she leaves behind, but this whole is also a space for growth of those whom he left. I know. I didn't want that "growth" either. But when it's there, we have to make the most of it.
I focused on the good things I had in my life. I helped a friend who didn't have a place to stay at that time by inviting her to share my mom's apartment. She and I had became family. She's like a sister to me now.
It was hard. But it gets better. You need to go straight through the pain. Don't suppress it.
Don't deify her. She was human and humans make mistakes. I used to think that my mom was perfect. It took me years to understand that I cannot use without questioning what she had thought me, even though I wanted to be like her. There's only one thing we can be - ourselves.
Talk about her to your dad, her friends and family. It helps to remember her.
If you can afford to, go to therapy. It helps. I couldn't afford it until my mid-thirties. But it did me a world of good.
Turn to your family and friends, but learn to be independent.
People who lose their parents early sometimes have a tendency to partner up early too. If it comes naturally fine, but if you're afraid of being alone. Don't. You won't be.
Hang in there!
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