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writes:hi my name is jemma !!my mum and dad never lets me out with my friends and i am stook in the house nearly all day the only time she lets me out is to go up the shops !! and i get so bored and some times i feel i am not apart in this family because i am never ever allowed out with out my mum or dad and i am 13 how sads that i only see my friends at school and i wanna go out more with my friends like hang out but my mum wont let me !! please help me tell me what shall i do!!what shall i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (6 August 2007):
It may be an idea to ask your parents if you could invite some of your friends into your place. If your parents could see the kind of people that you hang around with they may be reassured that they are OK with you once you are out of their sight. If they are not the kind of people you could trust in your house or not the people who you could trust to get on reasonably well with your folks then maybe your folks have a point in not letting you out with them.It is a true saying in life that you become the books that you read and the people that you hang around with. If your parents see these people as undesirables so to say then that may explain why they are like they are.Maybe if you show some initiative regarding a hobby or doing something a bit more constructive around the house and then maybe plan to go out somewhere with your friends instead of just "Hanging around". Your parents may be more approachable if you suggest that you and your friends go shopping, a trip to the cinema, or Bowling, a trip out to the local park etc. You may see your parents as a little overprotective and I must admit they certainly seemed comcerned. Then again we often see small gangs of youngsters hanging about on street corners with nothing to do and just moaping around and I could quite understand your parents not wanting the like of that for you.I for one think your parents need more convincing that you would be doing something more positive if you were to go out to hang around with your friends.
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reader, Variety +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Talk to your parents about it. Say if you went shopping or something with your friends you would text them regularly to let them know you are ok. If you can talk about this rationally and calmly, and more like an adult then they should see you more maturely.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Ah the classic, overprotective parent situation. When I was around your age, my curfew was at nine. If I was with friends hanging out longer, it was nine thirty, but I had to call home. I have a friend, who was not allowed to go to her junior prom, she had to wait to go to her senior prom. Maybe you could get some of your friends to hang out with you at your place. I still have rules myself. For example, if a guy is in my room, I can't have the door shut. Rather stupid rule if you ask me, since I could be into females (even though I'm not) and the door would be closed.
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