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*iveforthemoment'
writes:My father is an alcoholic and it is really upsetting me lately. I'm 15 and I have no idea how to confront him about it as I have always been too scared and I was wondering how other people confront their parents about their addictions?
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reader, liveforthemoment' +, writes (14 May 2011):
liveforthemoment' is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you your answers really helped 3 i dont live with My Dad i see him three times a week so ill hopefully get talking to him about it really soon (:
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (14 May 2011):
 You want to find a time when he's sober (and preferably not hungover) to talk to him alone. Don't accuse him or run him down. Focus instead on how you feel, on how his behaviour makes you feel. If his behaviour when he's drunk frightens you, tell him. Give him clear examples of how you are affected. Tell him you love him, but that you aren't feeling safe/comfortable/loved (whatever the case may be) in your home.
The point is for him to realise that his actions affect you in a way that's not positive, and so to give him food for thought. In all liklihood he wants to be a good father, and he may be unaware (or be in denial) about how his actions affect the others in his home. If he does want to be a good father, hearing from you that his drinking is getting in the way of that will give him a powerful stimulus to change. The only way he will change is if he's motivated, and hearing from his child that there's a problem will be a powerful motivator.
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reader, Julliet +, writes (14 May 2011):
 Just ask your dad in a nice way; what does he see you becoming in the future? Tell him that kids learn by example, and the example he's setting right now is not a good one. Tell him you will be there for him to help him through this if he quits. Best of luck kid. I know that it might be a tough situation, but I admire you for seeking help. Just goes to show how smart you are...:)
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