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writes:I recently came out to a female friend and she told me I should just be open about it and not be scared of what people think of me because of that. She suggested that the only people I should care about if I told them would be my family.Now part of me wants to tell my mother but another part of me is freaked out to even bring about the subject because of what the reaction will be. I know people say that she will love me no matter what and if that makes me happy then she should be happy for me and accept it, but I'm still scared to tell her.I told my friend that I'm not sure if my mom kinda knows already or has an inclination to some sort but I'm not sure. I'm currently 21, I've never dated girl and I've never brought a girl home unless it was one of my friends. Do you think because of that she is inclined to believe I'm gay but just haven't had the guts to tell her.Whats a good way to come out in the open with my mother without it being so awkward. Reply to this Question
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reader, carolinecc  +, writes (27 June 2008):
the only advice i can give is its your call theres no rush to tell your mother , yeah she could already know and just waiting for you to say the words , or maybe she has no clue what so ever , you could go out somewhere together quiet and get her talking and maybe mention that you have a friend thats just told you he is gay , then you can see her reaction and who know maybe she will guess that the friend is actually you . but only do it when you feel ready to , my wish for you that it will end in a big hug from your mother when you do feel the time is right for you to tell her lots of luck :)
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reader, lboy +, writes (23 April 2008):
 dear reader,
i know what your going through, i went through the same thing when i told my mother but trust me when i say this, it will always feel awkward for you not matter how you do it because you will always know what your about to do. all you need to do is just swallow the lump in your throut sit down with her and just bring it up, just make her feel comfortable i'll be honest there are times when the parents dont really react in the best way but trust me she will learn to deal with it, but from what you say about having never brought a girl home or even told her you have a girlfriend i believe she will already know about your sexuality , to be honest your probably making it worse by having not told her yet as you are leading her to just think your a very frigid man lol, and to be honest your at an age now where there isn't really all that much your family can do it about it, i mean what is she going to do your 21 she can't exactly ground you now can she?? anyway thats all the advice i have, hope i helped.
good luck
lboy
xxx
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reader, Merisier +, writes (20 April 2008):
Like my boyfriend always say, mother always knows. Yea sure it is scary to tell her but are you really ready for that challenge? You do know there is gona be a lot of talk. Like me I don't think I will ever tell my parents, I just want to be a secret I don't care what people think or say cause this is my life. Well think twice before you make that decision
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (20 April 2008):
Wow that's a really big challenge. It's very scary. I think you need to give up hope that it won't be awkward. It will be. And it will be scary too. But as far as mothers go, I'm sure she will love you no matter what. If you really want to do this, then find a quiet, private time, where you won't be interrupted. Muster up your courage and tell her "mom, I need to tell you something that's really hard for me to say, and I really need your support and understanding right now". Then be prepared to give her some time to digest the information. I'm sure everything will be fine. Or maybe you could even consider bringing the friend you came out to with you for support.
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reader, jenxlovesxyou +, writes (20 April 2008):
 the best way to do so is ask her "how would you feel if i was gay?" if she truely loves you and respects you as her daughter she would be fair about it...you are you and how you are can sometimes arent controlable sometimes you do things and you wonder did i really do that...its normal for girls to feel akward to tell their mothers about them...my bestfriend knows me more then my own mother does..i basically have 2 lifes..and she doesnt know half of me..but mine is pretty bad my parents dont know about me being raped..or being fingered before..it is really hard to commonicate with your parents because you feel they wont respect you for you..but what you really dont know is that they love you for you so dont be afraid to hide you let yourself be free and be who you are not what people want you to be..you cant be perfect no one can..and your parents know that.
hope this helps(:
good luck
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