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*lien invasion
writes:Just yesterday my boyfriend and I were really aggravated at each other. So, as we were laying down I asked him why he was mad at me. He began to explain why, and on top of the first reason there were a few others. When we were done talking, everything was fine except for the fact that I felt really terrible about one of the things he said, which is what I'm here to get advice on.He started to talk about the sex we have. He mentioned how a lot of the time he feels like he's just having sex with someone who's asleep because I close my eyes a lot of the time. He told me how I don't tell him what I want so in turn he doesn't know if I'm enjoying it or not. Then he started going on about how he feels like he's doing all the work and blah blah blah. It just really sucks 'cause I want us to enjoy our sex and I don't want him to be bummed out about it. Another thing, I feel like he never even tries to turn me on. Ugh. I guess it's just really hard to be honest and tell him exactly what I want him to do and all that. It's just embarrassing, isn't it? I just kinda wish he already knew what to do without me having to tell him.How do I change our sex life so that it's amazing every time? I don't want to have to worry about him not enjoying himself and then me getting un-aroused and then it ending without much of any satisfaction.
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (6 July 2010):
alien invasion is verified as being by the original poster of the question Aw. Thanks everyone, this really helps me out. I'll be seeing him tomorrow and plan to take all of your advice.
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reader, Odds +, writes (5 July 2010):
 You have to "man up" and tell him what you like in bed. He's mad because A) he wants to please you, and B) because he believes that if he does not please you, you will leave him. There's nothing to be embarassed about. Once a guy's been inside you, he will not think less of you for talking about sex, trust me.
You can open your eyes once in a while, but keep them closed the rest of the time, as long as you are moving and moaning enough.
Try sex from on top, like Nightyfairy suggested, since it's both easier to move around and easier to have an orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): I'm the same as you. I'm to shy to tell him what I want him to do so instead of telling him I show him. First tell him that you're closing your eyes because you're enjoying it. Try to offer on your own to be on top. While you're on top kiss his neck and rub his chest and his shoulders. Run your hands through his hair and just whisper in his ear that you want him to put his hands on your back/legs etc. This will show him that you're enjoying it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): Hate to say it, but this really is your own fault. Because you are to shy to tell him what you like, how is he supposed to know what you like? He most likely is trying to turn you on, but because you don't do anything to help him. If he wanted to make love to something that just lay there, well they have dolls for that. He loves you and wants to get you off. Stop being embarrasesed and help him out and actually SHOW him you are liking it when he does things that feel good.
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