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anonymous
writes:Dear readersI have a serious problem and am unsure what to do, I lost my virginity at the age 18 to the person that I will be soon marrying. I also took his by the way and for starters were actually pretty great at it and are in to trying new things. But for some reason my virginia area starts to hurt very quickly and he's the only one that can catch an orgasm, don't get me wrong it feels great and when he goes down town I'm pouring out oceans. But I feel that I'm at a 9.5 and I'm trying to reach a 10. So my question is how do I catch mines, my mitt is open and I'm ready to play ball.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 i have the exact same problem!! only i cant stand him playing with my clit for too long, it just starts to hurt very soon and i get bored with just penetration. my poor man plays with me for so long and instead of getting turned on i get bored and dry. the only thing that really gets me going is him biting and sucking my neck. i can orgasm just from that alone! i guess its just finding what does it for you and go with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Get on top. Most women, unless you're one of the few lucky ones that have vaginal orgasms, can't have an orgasm with the man on top. The clitoris needs more stimulation. So get on that horse and ride. LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Take things slow. Do you have a lot of fore play before hand or just go in for the kill? For guys it's usually pretty easy to orgasm but women need to be turned on enough to achieve it.
When having sex don't pressure yourself in to having an orgasm because if you're thinking about it it won't happen.
You need to know your own body, what gets you off etc... if you know what you like and can orgasm by yourself then show him how you achieve that. If your boyfriend knows about more about what you like it could help.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (11 November 2010):
 It is a fact that MOST women cannot reach orgasm by penetration alone, 70% to 75% of all women need direct clitoral stimulation as well. That can be experimenting with different positions where you or he also stimulate your clitoris, or oral sex. Only around 20% of women can come from penetration alone; and a mind-boggling 1% of women can reach orgasms by nipple stimulation alone! I'd be afraid to jogging.
Anyways - you are perfectly normal if just penetration isn't getting you over the top. You should discuss this with your bf and then the two of you can figure out how to get you there. A lot of younger, less experienced males are under the misconception that all females will orgasm during penetrative sex; but this just simply isn't the case for most of us. Use your words and ask your lover to do what feels best for you - communication is the key to a happy life and a healthy sex life!
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