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writes:my boyfriend and i have fooled around before and i like it and i know he wants to do more but i've never done any of that before. hes felt me up and fingered me but thats the most ive ever done. ive never given a blowjob or a handjob and i feel comfortable doing that with him i just don't know how to even approach the situation let alone actually do it and i don't want to be the awkward girlfriend that has to have him initiate everything because i dont know how but obviously i cant just go up to him strip him and blow him even if i knew how to actually blow him. I need to know how to casually set up the situation and move from one thing to another but also what to do once all that actually happens.
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reader, Just.opinions +, writes (6 August 2013):
Give him a hard on. Tease him up. Soon he will be raring to go, and you can slowly move your hand up his thigh almost to his junk. Look him in the eyes and ask him if hes ready for a little bit more action... Something like that. Gaurantee he will be lol. And ask him to show you how. I would start with a handjob. Easier to talk about his preferences when there isnt a dick in your mouth. And since it is the first time, a lot of talking is the key to figuring out what he likes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): You have nothing to worry about because men are simple creatures! Bringing up the topic with girls may be as complicated as playing chess, but with men, it's just a push of a button.Just bring up a general topic about sex, and eventually go to the question if he likes oral. Or ask how he likes it, and while he is describing, go down and ask "you mean like this?".Or ask if he likes to play doctors. Use your imagination.If you guys have fooled around before, he will never think of you as an awkward girl or anything like that.How to do it? You will figure it out. You guys have to sexplore one another. Don't skip that part.As Person12345 mentioned, just don't do anything crazy. If you go fast or deep, he will feel like his penis is inside a pencil sharpener!Jennifer Van Beaver has a good instructional video about oral. You can find it freely on the web. But don't forget to do your own sexploration.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 May 2013):
 Just kiss down his chest and stomach and unbutton his pants. He'll get the hint pretty quick! Just ask in a sultry voice "is this OK" to make sure he's OK with moving forward, then go for it.
As for actually going for it, remember with a blowjob that there is no reason you need to go super deep and risk gagging or anything like that. The head is the most sensitive part and what you should focus on. Use your hands to stimulate the shaft. Even just lightly squeezing or gently making a twisting motion can make a big difference. The hand is also there in case he gets excited and tries to thrust, that will prevent him going too deep. Make sure there's lots of saliva. Vary it up between licking and sucking.
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