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writes:at the moment i really like this girl and like we've met up a few times with our mates and stuff but how do i know if she likes me in a relansionship kinda way?? and also what are the next steps and what should i do in the build up to me possibly asking her out?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Ask for her msn addy if you both have computers or her mobile number. That way you can get to know each other better by chatting and finding out a lot more about each other. After a while you will know by her responses and how often she contacts you if she likes you are not and take it from there. Ahh young love, its so hard!!!
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): yeah i mean i'm good friends with her and we've known each other for a few years and stuff but like its just been starting to be more of a thing between us now
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reader, SadieB +, writes (2 July 2008):
You need to keep it very light hearted - dating someone is about having fun and not putting each other under any pressure. When you meet up in your group of friends, try just being yourself and joking around with her, us women love it when a man pays us a little bit more attention that the other people they are with. Having said that 'if you act like a clown you'll be treated like a clown' so don't put yourself up for ridicule. Don't be the group joker or make a fool of yourself, just be light hearted and good company. When the time feels right (and don't rush it) ask her whether she wants to do something with just the two of you sometime? If she says no then act like it's no big deal and quickly change the subject! If she says ok, or that she'll think about it, give her your number and take it from there. It's important not to brood over it or make her feel that you're upset in any way. Best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Well first off I would suggest you slow down a bit. I'll tell you why. You don't even know if this girl likes you and you are already throwing around the word "relationship." That's alot of pressure and certainly you want this to be as easy as possible for the both of you. One guy I had met who I really liked blew his chances with me for throwing that word around way too soon. Don't make that same mistake.
I would just ask her what she likes to do and when she tells you what she likes then ask her if you can take her there sometime. Just like that. If she likes you she will say yes. And then see how it goes. But wait and feel it out before you mention a "relationship."
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Well what I tend to do is being friends first but thats only because I like making sure that they actually like my personality - and not my dashing good looks =P
(jokes)
Just being there, having a life, helping her out stuff like that. Get her MSN, Facebook, phone number whatever and chat to her on that. For example, if you go thr cinema or something pay for her ticket. Just an example.
Show that you like her, not in a clingy and obsessive way. Sell yourself. Not literally, but like in a job interview you are told to sell yourself. Make yourself known to her and just be good to her.
Be sweet, sensitive and understanding - which most boys aren't!
P.S. Girls are prone to like more mature boys. But then this depends on the type of person. Try and find out more about her through mates and stuff.
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