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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My parents are aggressive and short tempered, they used to and still do get mad at the smallest things and use seniority and violence to bring me down. I was never allowed and still am not allowed to have a voice that goes against anything they say and get blamed for their mistakes. I never had anyone to turn to for help because I am an only child and home life made it difficult to relate to my peers. I couldn't make friends at school and was mildly bullied and mostly ignored.Now I don't know how to cope by myself with flunking out of school and I don't know how to respect and appreciate myself as a person with everything that has happened. What are good ways to build confidence and self respect? and how do you find the courage to preserver despite multiple failings and a very slow pace when compared to others?
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Don't compare yourself to others. It doesn't help anything. You are you. Find what you are good at. How? Try things. You don't have have anyone's approval to do what you love as long as you are not hurting anyone. (No axe murdering allowed :d) You don't mention your age. If you are a child or minor living at home, please talk to your school counsellor. They can and will help you to deal with a lot of things. If you are an adult, are you working? Living on your own? Your parents probably love you and don't see thier behaviour as bullying, and would be shocke to know you do but you are to live your life, not theirs. My advice? Counselling is always a great start. Noone wants to admit they need a counsellor but the very fact you are on this site tells me you want one. There is no shame in asking for help from qualified people. They help. A lot. I've used their services at various times. When I was young, a new mom, for my children, marriage... we aren't born knowing everthing. Best wishes
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