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writes:Ok, well I bet half of the people answering this are going to be prep. I don't mean to be mean seems how I am half one. I am not a tom boy but Im not a real girly girl either. I have been talking to my best friend about going goth/emo. She wants to to, but she can never go shopping, including the fact her parent lost their job, same as one of mine. I want skinny jeans, black shirts, etc. But I don't know how to tell my mom that I want to be different. And everytime I wear black nail polish my sister makes fun of me saying "Ohhh are you feeling especially goth today?" She has no idea I want to wearing different stuff than her. She just says it becuz I don't no. And my dad doesn't approve of goth/emo people very well. My cousins are emo/goth and he wouldnt let them sleep in the house becuz of it! I mean their not really my cousins becuz their not blood related. I really need help on what to do? Should I just get skinny jeans, not that brightly colored shirts, and stuff?
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reader, Skellington +, writes (5 July 2009):
 First off, take that slash out from between goth and emo and get them as far away from each other as possible. It angers me to no end when people associate goth with emo. Goth and emo are two totally different things. Goths aren't just clothing, it's the mindset of the person. If you can find amusement in the darker, twisted side of life. Like art in a splatter of blood left behind by an emo suicide jumper...or...a feeling of triumph when a rival is left broken, beaten, and scarred (whether by your hands or someone elses). Trying to just look the part, is only going to bring you trouble and even more stress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): Hey
Once I was emo (like I dressed like one)
But then I changed because emo isn't publically accepted everywhere like resturant for example, and when I would dress normally for these occassions id be called a poser..
I think emo gradually grows on someone you can't just become one over night, just slowly change you clothes, hair etc. Have some fun.
Also consider being a scene kid, which is a great alternative but not so dark and negative as such...
Google image it :) hope I helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): As you grow up you are going to realise that this attitude of placing people in boxes isn't very helpful. "prep"? "emo/goth"? Sweetheart, I hate to tell you this, but you don't even know what those words mean. It's sad to see whole social trends reduced to mandatory items of clothing and a single abbreviated word that some teen uses so callously.
Are you aware of the fact that the only people this kind of thinking makes any sense to is other whiney teens like yourself? That one day you will grow up and realise that your identity as a human being is more than just what kind of pants you wear?
If you want a new identity, why don't you start building some real character instead of expecting to buy one at the mall? And if you insist, why not get a job and pay for it YOURSELF?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): lol are you serious?
this is just a cry for attention.. if you want to be different why would you join a cick, number one.
number two, you cant just turn into a gothic.. its not just a matter of what the wear. their mindsets are completely different..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionomg thanks fer all the comments! so helpful. thanks :]
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (5 April 2009):
 Why do you want to be emo or Goth? To be different? :s because it's not different when there's such a large group of people doing it. If it's just you admiring the fashion of "goth" then that's cool.. i'd start of slow though. Like, start wearing darker clothes gradually and not go all out right away.
I had a "goth" stage while i was growing up. i enjoyed it!
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reader, Mullen  +, writes (5 April 2009):
hey, what your going through is identity crisis. its perfectly normal. your wanting to fit in but dont know who which group to go to.
Real emos and goths dont care what other people think. But there are so few of the real ones left, the ones nowadays just think they're emos.
So my advice is if you want skinny jeans and bright coloured clothes, go for it, but that dosent mean you need to change who you are. You're mom should not really havva problem with you just wearing skinny jeans, loads of kids are doing it these days, and if she does, im sure she'll get over it. plus this is probably just phase, in a few months you'll find somthing new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): My parents are the exact same way. I used to want to be emo for some dumb reason and then i realized i just really wanted to wear what i wanted. Did u know that clothes affect ur mood if u wear darker clothes u'll feel downer than if u wore bright colored clothes. I see nothing wrong with expressing one's self and dark clothes are great once in awhile but making a lifestyle out of it isn't a good modd. U'll be down all the time. My advice if u still wanna go got/emo buy some skinny jeans don't even have to be skinny jeans. Get some skull shirts and studded belts. There's some thrift stores that have lots of emo stuff for less than 2 bucks and if u still wanna talk to ur mom no advice there she's gonna shut u out but if u wanna try just go up to her calmly and be like i just wanna try to change my look a little im still gonna be me. Ur kid.
lol well good luck my dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): erm... being gothis or emo is not just about clothes.
where what you want - and if you can't get the money together, make do and mend - leaf through charity shops. dye your unwanted shirts - just see what you can do!
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