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writes:before any one writes it is none of my business or butt out, I am only looking out for the people I care about, with that said here it goes.6 year ago my wife of 6 yrs and I got a divorce , it was a mutual thing,we care about each other but we are very different. we dated in high school and got married because it seemed like the right thing to do. The last few yrs we realized that we were not happy as a couple so we decided that it would be best for us to be apart. We have 2 children a 5 yr old daughter and a 3 yr old son. A few months ago she started dating this guy that I know (we live in a small every one knows everyone kind of town) This guy is a JERK, he is sleezy, dates sleezy girls, sleeps around, rude, disresectful and a huge party type of guy,I know in his past he was a huge drinker and did drugs occasionally. My wife is none of those things. She seems to really like this guy but I see this ending badly. I dont want to see her hurt. This isnt just about her it is also about my children, I do not want my daughter to see this guy disrespect her mother and think that it is ok for guys to treat women that way. I am not sure if he is still into drugs, I would hope that my wife wouldnt allow him to do these things in front or around our kids. My wife an I talk dialy, I am still very much involved in my childrens live snad we all get along for the most part. I want to ask my wife about this guy and kinda per warn her about him but I dont want to come off as tryign to interfear, what should I do to bring him up in conversation, or should I just talk to the guy myself. Thanks
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reader, Tashie08  +, writes (4 June 2010):
personally i would talk to her about on your own, without anyone there. Dont sound as though you're dictating to her, just explain that you want her to be careful, explain why you are concerned and just say you don't want the kids being around stuff like that and gettin hurt. Let her make her own mistakes, but she can't begrudge you the fact you don't want him around the children for the reasons you stated. good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): In my opinion, this is about protecting your children. You may be concerned about your ex-wife getting hurt or taken advantage of, but your kids take priority to her bad dating choices. You every right to step in and know everything about this dude and what he's doing or saying in front of your kids.
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