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writes:Hey everyone! Has anyone got any good advice for getting around the quiet dad of my girlfriend?? When I first met him it was a very formal handshake, acknowledgment etc. He was very quiet, didn't make eye contact once as far as I noticed. I'm pretty sure I can sort this out get along with him. from what I've heard hes funny and likes taking the mick out of things...very similar to me. But breaking the ice is proving tricky. It's obviously a nervous time for the dad - having to acknowledge the fact she has a boyfriend and the whole letting her go thing is tough, i do actually feel for him!! I do here he's quite controlling however...I'm pretty sure I can sort this out but any advice would be interesting, any past experience that worked for you maybe? just an interesting question really I haven't seen it posted before... perhaps any dads out there who fancy posting a bit of advice...ya never know!thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for your answers!!very helpful!!
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reader, Melanne +, writes (8 May 2007):
Hi it sounds as though the father is very protective over his daughter. I think you need to earn the trust of him which is proving difficult because he didn't make eye contact you. He sounds like a down to earth kind of guy, but he is probably just very protective over his daughter and worries about her. Maybe she has had ex boyfriends who have treated her badly and her father has trusted them then they let him down.
You realise that it is a nervous time for the father, but you didn't mention her mother. Maybe this is an added issue if there is no mother and the father has had to bring the daughter up by himself he will probably be more protective over her.
You sound like a caring type of bloke and I think this is what you need to put over to the father. I think my only advise would be to stick with it and maybe given time the father will begin to see that you are trust worthy and that your intentions are not to hurt his daughter. Hope this helps.
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reader, mona-lisa-cries +, writes (8 May 2007):
 meeting the perents isnt only very stressful for the person meeting them but for the perents too, i think he he is just having a hard time accepting his baby girl is growing up, try to find some common ground like music or sports.
but then again just remember that your not going out with him (sounds obvious i know) your going out with his daughter so thats somthing you have inm common with him, as long as your civil together it doesnt matter too much. If your careful about what you say im sure you will be fine :)
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (8 May 2007):
 hi huni, The thing you have to remember is that you are potentially the guy who is going to be sleeping with his little girl lol. so you gotta understand that he isnt going to want to be the best of friends. Try making a few jokes that your gf knws he wud be intrested in.But dnt worry. as long as you treat his daughter right and dnt give him a reason to dislike him, dnt take it too personally!
take care hun xxx
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