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writes:Hey guys, im 16 and having a bit of trouble. I've found that I fit in with a wide range of people, and they have said really nice things about me. I feel well liked by a lot of people (even people who know me through friends or may have met me once). However, I still care a lot about what other people think and this effects my confidence when around others, especially girls. This makes it difficult for me to build a solid conversation with my peers. I just want to feel a bit more included. I was just wondering if I could get some tips on how to be more confident around girls, building a conversation and approaching new people?
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reader, dazzac +, writes (23 December 2010):
hey i was the shy one around girls be confident within who you are be yourself if they see that u are the man you are who you are good luck
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reader, liammac  +, writes (13 December 2010):
Vic has pretty much got it right mate. It's an easy thing for another person to say "just act confident" when, even though, that might be the answer to the question, the one you most likely want to hear is: "How do i BECOME more confident?"
There is no real way of explaining how to become more confident. It is something that happens over time as you, and your peers, mature.
The number one thing to remember about when talking to girl's, and any man will tell you this, is get them talking. They want to talk and open up. That's the way female's work. And be interested in what she has to say because, generally, it will be interesting stuff. And you can learn alot about someone when you engage in conversation. You might find you dont like them at all because they are dull, boring, cocky etc.
I had the same problem at school - always shy around girls, not knowing what to say. Sometimes, the best thing is to just listen to them. Always make eye contact as this shows you are really involved within the conversation and you'll find, over time, as you have more and more conversations, that the confidence will be there. Because it was there all along. You just didn't know how to use it.
Just play it cool mate. Be your own person. Generally be interested in their lives and you will find everything else will fall into place.
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