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writes:I met a guy on a dating site which I was just using on a "see how it goes" basis - met him once and he was cute, so we said we'd meet up again. Texted for over 2 weeks since but we've been busy so we're meeting up next week. I said from the beginning I wasn't looking for a hook up and he agreed but he's invited me over to his house to "watch a movie" (which imo is pretty transparent) I initially agreed because I thought hey I'll just have some fun with it (he said he'd cook ??) but I've since realised tha I think I quite like him so I'd rather not put out on the second date/visit him in his house .... How do I backtrack and go on a more "appropriate" date? I'm 50/50 between going and having a good time or actually trying to date the dude "properly" ??
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 February 2016):
 I think the idea of pre-booking a taxi is a good idea.
I don't think you HAVE to trust him or take his offer for face value. YOU do NOT really know this guy. But with that said, I have been on a couple of second dates that involved the guy cooking, one (of 3) thought the fact that I was in his home meant I wanted sex. The other two didn't.
Or you can simply call him and ask if you two can rearrange the date as you feel more comfortable having X amount of dates in public till you know each other better. If he doesn't like that, maybe he isn't for you. NOT wanting to go to his doesn't mean you think he is a rapist or serial killer, it just means you are not yet comfortable with him.
I think the "movie and a meal at home" is for a 4+ date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2016): Pre book a taxi for eleven pm if you plan on keeping yourself to yourself.or even ten thirty because after that hour the implication often is "hey your still here that means your gagging for it."
If you let him know in advance then he knows where he stands.
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