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writes:Hi, i'm 13 and at school a lot of people say really mean things to me which i will never able to forget it has happened so many times that it feels like i'm being bullied by people my own age just cause their all popular and I am not, and most of the time i cry but i always say something back to the person but still the person who says the mean things to me always tells their mates and everyone and in their own exageration way and say how i cry and don't say anything and then every one laughs i can't take it anymore and i want it to stop so when some one says something to me what can i do to not cry but say something back to them then they won't say anything bad to me ever, please any help would be nice. I just want to know how to not let them put me down and intimidate me and especilly when they say something not to cry and keep my braveness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Oh you poor thing :( I know exactly how you feel, I was bullied really badly when I was your age. And I tried everything; ignoring them, telling a teacher, fighting back and although its probably not a reassuring thing to say, none of it worked. But I did beat them in the end. It was much worse when I was younger because I was scared of them and let them get to me. I know its so difficult to stay brave when people gang up on you, and if its just you against them then it doesn't matter what you say back because you are out numbered. When I was younger, the way I avoided it was to try and avoid them completely. I'm not saying you should hide away but if you don't get their attention, they won't think to pick on you. And try and stay in a group, or with a friend, they are less likely to pick on you if you are with others especially if they know the other people will stick up for you! Another thing that helps is to try not to seem vulnerable, bullies only pick on people who they know won't fight back. If you hold your head up high then they will see that they aren't making you upset. This is a difficult thing to do though, you have to really concentrate on ignoring them, maybe try focusing on what is wrong with them and keep repeating it in your head, like "i dont care what they say, I am so much better than them" if they do something else because you are ignoring them, just say "sorry, I just don't care what you have to say to me, you're wasting your breath". The way I beat my bullies was when the ones in the year above me left school. Then I was just faced with the ones in my year and the years below me. I kicked ass! (verbally not literally!) I am so much smarter than those stupid, cruel bullies and thats what you need to tell yourself. You are better than them, they have to put vulnerable people down so that they can feel powerful, its quite pathetic really. The key to beating bullies is confidence. Don't let them take your confidence away from you! Once I realised confidence is the key, and also being good at arguing back which is a skill I have down to a T now haha, not only did I beat my own bullies but I beat other peoples bullies too! Bullies should be put in their place, don't let them get away with it, don't let them get what they want! Don't be scared of them, they are just silly little children who get enjoyment out of upsetting others.
And feel free to talk to us on here whenever it gets too much for you, you can message me about it if you like.
Take care
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (3 May 2008):
 I was bulled, what you should so is ignore them, they will get bord of teasing you eventually.
They are just being immature, thinking they are big and clever making someone feel small and usless...
Tell a teacher what is going on, but ask them to keep you anonymous... then they cannot prove the complaint was from you!
I hope this helps
Love & Hugs
Good Luck
Tasha x
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