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writes:what is it abour me that attracts unattractive guys i mean my mom always told me to be nice so i am and i attract boys who i dont like how do i get the ones wh i like what do i do.ps i like the bad boys Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds +, writes (13 January 2011):
 I'm not sure I understood your followup, so I apologize in advance if I'm not answering the questions correctly.
If you're physically unattracted to the kind of guys who are attracted to you, it's one of two things. Either you are less attractive than you think you are (and are therefore frutilessly seeking to date out of your league), or you are mixing up physical and psychological attractiveness. Or both, who knows.
Psychological attractiveness is that trait you're describing - not caring what anyone thinks, but still seems to care about you. That kind of attitude is what girls find most attractive in guys, and it completely trumps their looks. Unfortunately, guys like that are very rare outside of romance novels. At best, you can get a guy who pretends to care about you. It's pretty simple, really - if a guy doesn't care about other people, why would he care about you?
I'll reiterate, you're young, and you sound like your image of the ideal man is still forming in your mind. Give yourself a few years before you start dating; a little patience now will pay off for the rest of your life.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (12 January 2011):
 SO you want a guy who is sweet and caring to you, but doesn't give a rats butt what other people think? That's not really a bad boy, at least, not the extremely bad kind which isn't a bad thing.
You say that you are always attracted to the guys who aren't attracted to you? IS that what you are saying? We always want what we can't have and the more we can't have it the more we want it. Until we find someone else we want more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i say bad boy i mean has feelings and but that side that doesnt care what people says about him not the one always getting in trouble so iguess idont mean bad boy but you know i hope you understand i just attract guys who im phissically unattracted to me.i mean what is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): Just remember this is your choice. The bad boys will leave you hurt and used and give you emotional baggage pretty fast. Then in a few more years you will be saying "How can I stop attracting the bad boys?"
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reader, faenon  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 bad boy is such a loosely used term whats your meaning on bad boy OP? If you mean one that is always in trouble with the law you need to grow up and get a brain these kind of men aren't relationship material unless you like the idea of being the single baby's mama while dad's in the pen for 15yr terms etc
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reader, Odds +, writes (5 January 2011):
To attract bad boys for sex, just offer sex to the guys you like. Seriously, they'll take you up for it.
You cannot hope to attract bad boys for a relationship - at least, not for one they'll be faithful to. At best they'll pretend to care long enough to get into your pants, or leave if that's taking too long. Still, you can offer an open relationship, and bad boys will take you up on it.
Keep in mind, if you develop too long a history with bad boys, decent men stop being an option. You're between 13 and 15 - give yourself a few years before you start getting too heavily into dating.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (5 January 2011):
Um, what is your definition of a "bad boy"? Cause there are a lot of varying degrees of bad.
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