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writes:Hi, there is this attractive girl who works at a local ice cream shop. Ive never had a big conversation with her, and i was wondering how i would go about asking her to go on a date?I was thinking about asking her out for dinner, how should i put it? or should i keep going there and talking to her little by little (that method seems kinda creepy to me) Reply to this Question
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reader, VincentMancini  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Watch the scene in 'Taxi Driver' when Travis asks the girl in the Electoral Campaign Office out...it's kind of interesting and seems effective!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): You could tell her that you're surprised she got the job in there becuase she looks so hot it's a wonder that all the ice cream hasn't melted! (or something equally smooth and suave). It might cost you a few bucks in ice cream, but keep going in there until you catch her on her own and when you get the chance ask her if you could cook her a nice meal. Like breakfast, for example. No - only kidding on that one! But you never know - it might work.
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reader, PractiGal  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Dinner might be too much to ask, for a person that you don't know very well yet. I'd suggest meeting for coffee or a sandwich -- something a little more informal.
As far as the actual asking part, a good way to start would be to find a moment when it's quiet in the shop and introduce yourself, with a little bit about who you are, so you don't seem to be some creepy stranger, cornering her at work. Something like, "Hi, my name's XXX. I work around the corner at XXX as a XXX. I've noticed you in here a few times when I've come in and I was wondering if you'd be interested in coffee with me sometime..?" Or words to that effect.
I'm not sure how the "talk to her little by little" method would work... It would seem to me that she'd keep being interrupted by work, and/or she might be annoyed that you just won't let her get on with her job. So maybe not that way.
Just be light and friendly about it. If she says no thanks, smile that it's OK, and don't take it to heart too much. There might be a lot of reasons why she can't go out with you (with someone, too busy with work/school, in a relationship, company policy etc), but you'll never know if you don't ask! Anyway, she might say Yes.
Take care!
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reader, Cat92  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 You should buy her an ice cream first and then ask her out for dinner. Of course make sure she's available, but if you find out she is I think it would be just the kind of thing we girls swoon over. Just go for it! good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Well, I wouldn't suggest stalking her or anything...but try to up front approach. Dinner may be to formal for the first date...try something less confrontational....Perhaps a movie, or bowling (That is always a fun date.) Good luck Mr. Sparky Pants....Let me know how it goes.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 The method is kinda creepy, but it can work better and can spare you the embarrassment. What if she has someone, pal? You need to know the person, at least superficially, before you act. Zero information about her is no good. I don't think you can ask her out by saying something like "Hey, you attractive-girl-in-the-ice-cream-shop or whatever YOUR NAME is, what time do I pick you up?
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reader, inloveoutofmind +, writes (12 July 2008):
offer to buy her ice cream :) that would be cute lol umm on a serious note has she flirted with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Here's an idea, just ask her. If you don't you will do your own head in with the wondering, and yes you will look creepy if you keep going back in there, no one likes ice cream that much, although they possibly like it more than stalkers.
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