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writes:i am divorced. recently had a woman visiting me who is married to someone i know. they are going thru some tough times in their marriage, she also told me that they had not slept in like 7 months. It got hot and heavy and she literally threw herself on me. But i felt very guilty and we did not have intercourse but i satisfied her urges by making her come. I like her emotionally and if she breaks up with her husband i want to marry her although i have not expressed these feelings directly to her. Now i am really paranoid that by not having intercourse i may have pissed her off and lost a great opportunity to be with a wonderful woman. Is that possible or am i just being paranoid?
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 She needs to work out her marriage issues first as she may be just using you (unintentionally) as an escape from her problems. If that is the case then you probably wont last as a couple either.
Tell her you will be there for her but dont want a relationship until she has made her mind up. x
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reader, Sandman +, writes (12 July 2008):
 A wonderful man would not have intercourse with a wonderful woman who is married - whether she's happy or not.
Being her friend is one thing. Being her friend that makes her come because she and her husband are going through a rough patch is another. Being there for her during her rough times is the best thing to do for her right now. She's got a lot of emotions going through her head and being intimate with someone else that is not her husband will only further complicate things for her. It MIGHT lead her to make a hurried decision and not give the issue serious thought.
Back off. Be her friend. If she divorces her husband then that will be a decision she made because of circumstances involving her and her husband only. If you remain in the picture as her sexual partner on the side, her decision might be based on that. Then who's to say that you two will truly be happy. Remember, when people are stressed and going through stressful times, we oftentimes do things we might not otherwise do under normal circumstances.
Hope this helps.
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