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writes:I am only 20, yet I've not had sex with my girlfriend before. I want to but I need to know how to say it in order not to be turned down. How do I go about this? I need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, godess artemis  +, writes (8 September 2010):
Set up a romantic dinner on your anniversary or monthsary.It will just happen.Just be romantic.
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reader, romany  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Theres no magic words to get a woman into bed, only lies and broken promises, but they're only done by men who are nasty, selfish and have no respect for themselves or others.
You've not mentioned how long you've been in relationship with your girlfriend, or if you love her, and she loves you, if its been a while, and you love each other, than its almost certain that she has the same desires as you do, and if one or both of you are virgins, then you need to discuss it really, making sure that you've got protection against pregnancy.
Like i said, there are no magic words, she is either ready or she's not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I've never really had that conversation in that way. Have you slept in same bed and fooled around in bed before? I just leave it until it gets the stage where we're doing that regularly and just move on to sex after that. If I'm told no, then I'll ask her the reason and if she wants to wait that's fine.
Personally I always found it better not bring it up in conversation, I just lead it to sex while we're doing something else. I have been turned down plenty of times and was respectful and didn't try again until they asked me to. But yeah it seems to increase the odds if you're already engaged in sexual activity. I always had a sense that they were ready though which is probably why I never felt the need to ask.
Look there's no guaranteed way to ask and not get turned down. Basically if you think she'll turn you down then she's probably not ready yet and you should wait until you feel she is. If you;re not already engaged in other sexual activity regularly then chances are probably slim.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (8 September 2010):
if shes not a virgin and you crea a romantic setting you shouldnt have to ask youll either get lucky or not but you can at least make an effort
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (7 September 2010):
Why are you so worried about being turned down? is it your man pride. besides you don't ask for sex it will be in yours and her actions! you don't plan sex it just happens when the moment is right when you and her both are ready you'll know!
Good Luck!
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reader, ShayShay24 +, writes (7 September 2010):
Just have the "talk" with her tell her your ready to take the relationship to the next step and ask if she is ready. If she is not ready there isn't much more you can do but, wait.
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reader, CottonCandy19  +, writes (7 September 2010):
take it stage by stage and don't just jump into it straight away. Be sure to turn her on first before you decide it's time to have sex. start by kissing her, touching her everywhere and when you know she wants it as much as you do, then you know what to do =) goodluck...
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