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anonymous
writes:there's this girl 2years younger that me, i think she's a great person and really pretty. I talk to her sometimes online and she is really nice. She has been in many relationships and is single now. I would like to date her but i find it really weird and a scary experience to even mention i like her i really do not know how she will react and its even more scary due to the fact she may find it amusing that i'm 2years older. Being honest i'm not all that good looking myself but she is. Ladies what would your advice be? Shall i even bother? How? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Step 1. Get girl's phone number, from her mind you. Just whip out the cell phone, scroll to addresses, enter her name, show it to her, and see if she will give it to you. You don't even have to say a word, but be careful with your body language.
Step 2. Ask her when is the best time to call. This helps you avoid calling her at an inconvenient time.
Step 3. Call her 3 days later. See where the conversation goes. Gage the tonality of her voice; excited and cheerful is good. Keep it pleasant, and stay on the phone for no more than 5 minutes.
Step 4. Before you end the call, get permission to call her again "some time".
Step 5. Don't call her every day until you two are serious. That can get old. Every two or three days, will get the job done.
Step 6. Ease her into the relationship. Start off with "I like talking with you." Don't drop the "I'm madly in love with you" bomb on her yet. When she reciprocates, you can advance to "I like spending time with you". After further reciprocation, move on to "I really like you." That way she doesn't freak out before she has had the chance to warm up to your advances.
Step 7. Be the best friend she has ever had. Read I Corinthians 13:4 - 7. Study each one of those characteristics of love...Patient, Kind, Forbearing, etc. You don't have to be a Christian, to benefit from this passage of Scripture. Study them well, try to understand what each one of them means, and put forth your best effort in putting these into practice. Put this young women ahead of yourself, and you will see true love blossom.
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reader, Kiita  +, writes (20 June 2008):
Ah, how do you ask her out? "Let's have some ice cream", "let's see a movie", "come see my band play", "i have to fix my bike. Are you coming?" What matters is that you spend time with her. Make it clear that you want to kiss her.
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reader, Kiita +, writes (20 June 2008):
Dear annonnymous. Being in love with someone and not being able to show your love is... BORING. Call her out. if she denys your invitations, there are a lot of things you can do to impress her so that next time she won't let you down. Be confident, self assured and interesting, treat her well, have patience. Read the Great Gatsby. Or move on. There's no big deal in being rejected. You can give herself other opportunities or look for other girls.
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