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writes: I’ve been very cool with this girl that works at my job for about almost a year now I met her through a close friend of hers. Nothing sexually we just laugh and talk when I see her working at her shop in the airport. About a week ago my friend came to me and said that she was wondering why I don’t talk to her meaning she wanted use to get to know each other more personal. For a week I have been trying to work up the nerves to give her my number or ask for hers, I’m very shy when it comes to things like this. I’ve been trying to think of the easiest and coolest way to ask her for her number and not look stupid in the process. I know she likes me because she ask my friends about me when she sees them when I’m not around, I just hope I didn't wait to long and let her get away from me. Can someone help me out with some advice on letting her know that I like her and getting her number at the same time and not embarrass myself. Thanks in advance for any advice you might have.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 As someone who is not shy, I cannot relate to the dread you must be feeling about asking for her number. So please bear this in mind as you read this response.
First, when I accost someone I want to get to know, I act as if we are already acquainted. "Hello, how has your day been going?" is a pretty mild icebreaker. It's an open-ended question that may give you information to ask more open-ended questions.
In your case, you may have already gotten past this stage. Now, it's time to ask her out for coffee or a drink. If she likes you as you believe, then you know the answer will be, "Cool - when and where do you want to meet up?" Arrange a time and place and at the end, you can say, "Here is my phone number in case something comes up and we need to change the place or the time. What is your phone number?"
I work in a business where I am meeting new people on a regular basis. The only pressure in asking for phone numbers comes from within yourself. Lighten up and don't think ahead to the date and how it could fail.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Above all, be a man and be confident. This is what a woman wants more than anything else. Oh, and ask her for a way you can get in touch with her outside of just running into her. Like if you wanted to get in touch with her to go out for a beer or something. There's no reason to feel embarrassed. The worst thing that could happen is she said no. It sounds like you could use the practice asking girls out anyways, so just do it. If you get a number great! If she's not into you, go on to the next one. There's 160 million women in the US not to mention how many in the world. I promise if you are confident, there's one out there that will go out with you.
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