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writes:I am confused! Basically me and this guy have been good friends for ages, but theres always been... like something more could happen. Anyway about xmas I started to have more than just 'wow hes gorgous' feelings, and more like I actually liked him. And he was acting in the same way. Anyway he asked me out, but stupidly I said no! Well I didnt say no, what I said was 'Dont get me wrong, I do want too but I havnt seen you in a while, so I think if we go out a few times first it will be better in the long run'. Oh how I regret that... anyway he didnt seem too put out and we carried on in the same old 'We like each other way.' I saw quite a bit of him, although its difficult because he boards in the week! Anywayyy... a few weeks ago we both got invited to the same party, which is unusual as we are at different schools. Basicaly we ended up getting with each other, and not only that we spent most of the night with each other, all snuggled up and stuff :D (Note: I was tipsy, he was sober). Anyway the next day he didnt text me, and I thought he may be annoyed at me (some of my male 'friends' were acting all jealous and yelling insults and stuff) but i didnt think this would bother him too much, and I apologised repetedly and he seemed alright with it. Anyway through the week i just felt things were... not there anymore. So I got a friend who knows us both to talk to him, and he told her he was still interessted in me, and when she asked him if he was gonna ask me out he said 'I might be...' so I just dont know what hes thinking.. since then things have got better and we seem to be back to the same old... but how can I approach the topic of going out with him? And do any guys know what is going on in his head?? I sure cant understand it! Thank you xx
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reader, Helpful_In_Ohio  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Well If your interested in him do your self a favor and get on the ball and be with him. Next i will make this short and as painless as possible stop sending friends to ask things you know stand up and be a woman and get the answers yourself. your not in grade school sending notes like do you like me circle one YES or NO . your an adult act like one. Bottom line is if you have feelings for him and he has feelings for you One of you have to take the chance and ask ( as he already did ) and men do not like rejection ( no matter how well h took it ) i can promise he will not try asking you again anytime soon if at all again. Ball is in your court play a smart game and gain a good man play the ball wrong and possibly lose a friend for life Either way the losing him can be a possibility if things do not work out. its life and life is not fair I hope this helps and hope you make the decision you want in your heart and your head but stop playing games. Go Get your MAN !
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (29 March 2009):
hes acting difficult to read as hes confused too! i think he genuinly likes you yet when he went in for the kill you turned him down! its not only knocked him but its confused his head, he has no idea how you feel and guys dont know how to handle emotions so they use the turn it off method. hoping itll sort its self. Next time rather than going through your mates to figure out how hes feeling talk to him, that way your more likely to get the truth and youll both feel better having said things to each other. until he knows how you feel your not going to move forward, i think hes waiting on you to make a move or talk to him. hes finding it hard and the more understanding you are the more likely it is to work in the future.work with him, not guessing how hes feeling actually knowing from him. approach the topic with honesty and a full heart. if he knows your 100% intothis hes going to be interested as from what youve said i feel he really likes you. you could make it work as you both seem so alike! especially the way you handle emotions and relationships sort this together! good luck xxx
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