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writes: I want to apologise to this girl i know, but i'm not sure what to say to her. She invited me to her grandad's birthday pary a few months ago her grandad is my sister in law's dad, and this girl is my sister in law's niece ).I said i would go at first, but it turned out that my immediate family couldn't make it, and i didnt have friend to travel with, and i didnt want to travel alone, as the party was a long way from where i live. She knew i didnt want to travel alone, and she suggested that i travel with my half brother and my sister in law. My half brother is a lot older than me( like, old enough to be my dad ), and lives in another area that isn't close to where i live, so i hardly know him, and i haven't felt comfortable around him, as he is very well off, whereas me and other family members aren't.My half brother mostly grew up with my other half brother and his mum and stepdad, as my half brothers were very young when my dad and their mum got divorced.They had a much better upbringing than i did, i would say.Anyway,i didn't get intouch with my sister in law or my brother about the party, and i didn't tell this girl that i did't feel comfortable about going to the party with them. I just let it, and didn't go to the party at all. I was disappointed though, as i realy wanted to go, if my other family members or a friend could have gone with me. I still want to be friends with this girl, but i feel funny about writing to her now. My sister in law had also sent a message to everyone on her friends list inviting them to the party, but i didnt respond to her.But it was actually her niece who invited me. What should i do ?. Im also going to see my brother and sister in law at another family event next year, and i will feel embarrassed because didnt get in touch with them about the party.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (3 November 2011):
 I wouldn't worry about it.
It's not like he was your grandfather, and it wasn't a formal party were you RSVPed, so it's best to brush off this situation.
By the time you see your SIL next year, I'm sure she will have already forgotten about you not making it to the party.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 It is a bit late now months down the line to apologise to her for not going to a party so your best bet is to just let it go and not worry about it, it is in the past you cannot change it now. If you would like to keep in contact with this girl well do that. Maybe you could invite her to go on a night out with you just so she knows that it was not personal to her, and if she does bring up her grand fathers party just be truthful with her.
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