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writes:I've been doing some thinking and I'm really wondering if I am better off alone. This has nothing to do with the fact that I'm just a teenager or that I am too pessimistic. I do want to have a girlfriend, and all that stuff though; I'm just beginning to think that after being rejected so many times, maybe I should take a hint. I mean, I always had problems with love, not to mention that I haven't had my first *insert love related experience here* (besides crush). I'm beginning to think that the things that I would like in a girl will never come to me. Don't say that I have to wait and see, or that I have to make an initiative. I'm done with all of that nonsense. Maybe when I'm significantly older, I'll think about love again, but right now, I think it's just gonna be more of a hassle, even if I manage to find someone. "Ideal love is unselfish, spiritual, eternal, and without restraint". If it's not like that, then who needs love? I probably don't. So really. Am I better off going solo, or should I keep my eyes open?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2011): as annoying as this may sound but you are REALLY young. When i was your age i used to get so upset at how i never got "approached" by guys. As soon as i grew up and stopped caring, i received attention and found love.
From experience i've learnt that as soon as you stop caring about something, it happens! Trust me!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 November 2011):
 Rejection, alas, is a fact of life. It's not nice, it's not fun, it's not something anyone looks forward to.... how well do you know the girls who reject you? And what are you looking for in a girlfriend?
My advice, based on your age, is to continue to develop your social skills, practice talking to everyone you meet to build confidence (if that's an issue) and find something you are passionate about. As long as it's not something most girls find distasteful, a guy with a true passion and appreciation for something interesting will always be more attractive than a guy who sits on the sidelines and does nothing.
One more thing. Be sure you are clean and smell good. I can't tell you how many boys are written off as date material because they are smelly. This does NOT mean that you should slather on the men's cologne or scent. Too much of that isn't good either. Just clean hair, clean nails and clean skin that smell fresh and nice can't hurt. The opposite can be a total turn off to young, shallow teenage girls.
Good luck in the wilds of dating land. If it's any consolation, men (and women) of any age can ask this exact same question. Let your freak flag fly, as the saying goes, be true to yourself (and clean, ahem) and someone who shares your passion will turn up eventually.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 There is nothing wrong with being single at your age there is plenty of time when you are older to go looking for love, not a lot of people find there true love until they are adults. Yes am sure there are flings and puppy love, but very rarely deep true love. So just be young and happy, but also remember everyone gets rejected in there life, it just means that it was not meant to be and it shouldn't mean that you give up going after a girl that you like. You just need to remain strong and look at rejection as a part of growing up and finding yourself.
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