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36-40,
*izzyb
writes:How do I act when he calls? Basically we've been apart for 2 months after 2.5 years. He broke up with me, wanted me back a week later. I said we'll see how he feels after he returns from a 1.5 month holiday to europe. he contacted continuously while he was away, sweet things like picture messages and i miss you etc. he's back now and all i've had is how are you text messages. the last one said 'hi lizzy, just wanted to say hi, so hi lol. how are you? do you still want to hear from me?' didn't write back for a while coz i was contemplating no contact because i was sick of text messages but eventually said 'hey yeah sounds good, a call next week would be great.' he agreed saying he'd call this week. Over the weekend he wrote 'hey lizzy, are you out in the city at the moment? I know im still calling next week but im not out much so I just thought I'd just check and see if you were.' I wrote back saying 'sorry not tonight. hope you're having fun.' he wrote back saying 'not really, just got home now. sorry if I woke you. now I know why I don't go into the city much.' I didn't write back. So now I'm waiting for his call. We haven't spoken on the phone in two months and I'm so nervous. I don't know how to act - whether I should be cool, calm, collected, reserved and not give away much or my normal happy bubbly self. Whether I should suggest a catch up (in reality I'd love for him to suggest a catch up which is what last time we saw each other we said we'd do) and how long we should chat before I end the conversation (i've been speaking to people and they've told me to keep it short to keep him wanting more.)I've been keeping my mind off him for the last two months, having fun, going out with a guy or two, went away for two weeks, but I miss him. it's going to be so weird hearing his voice again, it's been so long.
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reader, lizzyb +, writes (21 January 2009):
lizzyb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your responses guys. yeah it was tough at first going out and having fun. i'd go to places and remember when we were there together but i think i've been pretty strong. he ended up calling last night, the home phone and my mobile. i missed both coz i was out and my phone was on silent but he left a voice message saying 'hey lizzy just wanted to say hi, but you're obviously busy. i'll call back tomorrow.' he sounded so not like himself, really quiet, reserved and a bit down. i didn't know what to make of it. whether he was sad, or maybe just indifferent. i played it to my friends and she said 'oh lizzy he sounds terrible.' both mum and my friends said i should msg back so i wrote. hey sorry missed you're call. going to bed so will speak to you tomoz.' so nervous about speaking tonight. got a feeling both of us will have our barriers up. i will just be nice and friendly like you guys said. i might suggest a catch up. i really hope he does though.
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