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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Almost 3 years ago, at the beginning of the pandemic I felt socially isolated and spent more time online on places like fb chatting with random strangers to pass time....I met a young man( 19 years younger than me)who I kept at arms length for a long time bc of the age diff but he made me laugh and I enjoyed being pursued and desired by a younger man so we started flirting heavily and things became intense and I started having fantasies that it could work etc. Every advice I received from friends was spot on.........he does work for a gym but as a cleaner not a personal trainer.....he is a poor kid still living with his parents and does not own his own apt like he claims.....he has some mommy issues froom being abandoned by her when he was 16...he has some medical issues that probably causes him to act insecure and lie about his appearance...the photos he used to lure me in were of him but all photoshopped to make himself look at least 10 years older and a lot beefier.....he may have even been fishing for money bc he dropped hints a couple of times of being short to buy a car etc but I pretended I was daft and he never pressed the issuelast year before the holidays he got mad at me for insinuating he was cheating around( guilty conscience?) bc I said I didn't think he was emotionally available yet for still wearing( every single day and night probably) the bracelet his ex that he broke up with 6 years ago gave him....I stupidly took that as he a sign that he considers me so close that I would have the right to get jealous of other women even though we have not met irl yet and so I asked him if he wants to try to have something serious......he never responded and has practically ghosted me sinceI sent him a very short msg on fb a few days ago saying I miss you, hope to hear from you soon and not only has he not responded but he hasn't even read the msg which could only mean one of two things..... either he deleted it unread or has me on mute or ignore and didn't even get it....As I write this I know what I would tell someone else in the same situation but I'm having a hard time....1) blocking him out of my life bc I feel sorry for him and bc I have invested so much time and feelings and2)I can't accept that someone could do that to me and that I may have been just a toy for him:(
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