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writes:Basically How do you tell someone you like them?There is a guy at work who i have a crush on. We work for the same company. But not the same department. So we don't see each other all that often. But when we do it's always friendly chat. Bringing me a coffee ect. I have a bit of a crush but I'm really shy. How do I go about telling him/finding out if its mutual?I dont want to make things weird if not. But its totally okay if he doesn't. But how do I take the first step?If things didn't work out ect then we do not have to see each other so it wouldn't effect work or anything Thankyou
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reader, Illinois Jack  +, writes (1 January 2022):
Just ask him if he wants to hang out some time! That part is easy, but the real question is exactly what your expectations are, whether or not you are just looking for some sex or hoping for more, in your situation I'd basically say just be straight forward about it, Tell him you are wondering if he would like to hang out sometime, Do you know anything about him? I know sometimes I get this picture in my head of what I think things are and it isn't always right, BUT, you will never know unless you pursue it, spending your life wondering is much worse than any answer he could give you
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (30 December 2021):
Just to add a rider to my previous advice because you said that you don't know him that well.
Make sure he's not married or in a serious relationship before you ask him to join you anywhere out of work, if you haven't already ascertained this.
Make inroads into this topic by asking him by what he did for Xmas and who he spent the festive season with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2021): Ask him if likes to take out one evening if he wants. It has been done before. Nothing says that it has to be the male making this offer everytime.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (29 December 2021):
Ask him out. And choose an event that's not fixed for one particular day so that the likelihood of it clashing with something is minimised.
"Hey, Bill. There's a stage version of Night of the Living Dead on at the Guildhall Theatre next month. Shall we go and see it?"
If "Bill" is into you, he won't hesitate to say yes even if Night of the Living Dead (or whatever) isn't really his thing - he'll just be pleased to spend time with you. If he dithers... then you can take it that he's not interested.
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