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writes:This guy from my town added me randomly on Facebook almost a year ago (I already knew of him so he wasn't a complete stranger) - we got talking, and would talk literally every night till the early hours of the morning for several months without fail.We met up a few months later and got on so well, it wasn't awkward at all, everything was great and we became good friends, part of me knew I was starting to really, really fall for him but I told myself I wouldn't because he had a girlfriend, so I tried not to let my feelings get in the way.One night we were both at a party and ridiculously drunk, we ended up kissing and I apologised, he told me not to say I was sorry, and we ended up having sex...I know I should have felt guilty but I just couldn't. It was very selfish, I know that now and if I could go back and change things I would, but part of me just refused to regret it.Things went back to normal after this, we didn't tell anyone but we continued to be best friends (I was completely glad because I loved having him as a friend and I didn't want to lose him after our drunken mistake)A few months after, him and his girlfriend split up, we still talked a bit... but it became less and less often... and now we don't talk at all and it's really sad because I miss him so much. I really loved him and I feel like everything we had went down the drain. How did we go from being the closest of friends, to nothing at all?!I just can't understand it. It's not like the sex ruined anything, if anything we became better friends after it. I know somewhere part of him fell for me too... I just don't understand how we went from being everything to nothing at all?Is it time to move on and forget about him? I feel so lost!?
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reader, ellageorge +, writes (14 July 2011):
ellageorge is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both so much, you're completely right.It's time to move on and go down a different path.He met someone else shortly after, so I can only assume he's happy with her and despite my feelings, I'm glad for him.I think the only way I'll ever really get over him is to cut all ties with him and try and move on... it'll take a while but I know I can do it!thanks xx
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 June 2011):
 Had the exact same situation myself, but I'm the guy and the girl didn't have a bf.We started off as friends being introduced through my sister and followed the same path that you did.Yeah it's a shame stuff like this happens, we talked everyday for hours on end and now, I'm lucky to get a message off her once a week - I tried to cut back a little to see if she made the effort to contact me as I was usually the one to initiate.Things change that are out of your control, maybe he has become really busy? or met someone else? either way you can either try and stay in contact with him and see if he makes an effort to reciprocate or you can leave it and move on.I know how you feel, it's really crappy...hope you are okayGood luck x
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 Sometimes, people just grow apart and move on to other things in their lives.
Both of you were are in your early 20's,which is a HUGE transition time.
Nothing is wrong with you-your path just went different directions.
Best Wishes.
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