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*hick989
writes:My boyfriend and i have been together a year and a half and there is an age difference of 32 years (i'm 18 and he's 50) this is not the problem. When we first met he was out to impress me as all guys do but i thought he was different. he is the love of my life and i don't want to be without him but lately all we seem to do is argue about money. when he first met me he showered me with gifts and took me to nice places (my suggestions but he agreed). he told me how nice this lifestyle is and how he'd never experienced the nice things in life before. I later found out that he is in debt of £30,000! He put all what he did for me on the credit card and when i asked him how he got in so much debt he says 'just general living. this to me does not add up - he lived in a bedsit for ten years and has nothing luxury, where could he have spent so much money? his other girlfriends haven't been high maintenence and he's never really had anything nice. he has kids but he only pays their mother £100 maintenece a month between them! he works. he's now living with his mum again because things are so bad. The other night i asked him to buy me some fish and chips from the chip shop but he claimed it was too expensive!!!! i know i may sound selfish but i feel really worthless. if we ever go anywhere it's on my money (i only work 12 hours a week as i'm at college). he's booked up three days in a bed and breakfast next week - i would rather have one night in a nice hotel. before i met him i had boyfriends who would wine and dine me - i met him and none of that mattered so much but i do feel worthless. Fair enough it was nice of him to book it but it's going on his credit card so i don't think he should put any more money on it. i looked up the place on the internet and it looks horrible! i wouldn't have minded putting some extra money towards a cottage - i just want some romance and the place he has booked is far from that. Also bear in mind that he lives with his mum so the only quality time we get is when we're away. Am I being selfish? how did he creep up so much debt? Do i get out before it's too late? I love him but i'm really unhappy.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 You are sucking him dry! You expect to much from him and maybe he is/was trying to please you and that's how he got in debt. Your ex pampered and gave you everything you wanted that was him and should not try to compare your boyfriend to him. Instead of complaining about the bed breakfast be grateful that he still trying to spoil you, and you if want to be in nice hotel than help him pay for, go half. Don't expect to be treated like royalty, it seems to me he is trying hard to please you , your age and looks will only go so far.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 March 2010):
 You need to find another Sugar-daddy. Make sure you verify his bank accounts before you allow him to wine and dine you, you don't want to feel worthless again now do you?
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