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writes:Me and my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) have been dating on and off for a year.The first time we broke up was over me being on vacation and him having trust issues and him wanting me to come home early so we decided we wouldn't talk for awhile .Well then he got with another girl very quick about two weeks later. I couldn't believe when I got back from my vacation and got on Facebook and saw a picture of him with another girl so soon i couldn't believe he was acting like nothing ever happened.Well while they were dating his new girlfriend added me on Facebook and also called me a whore I found this a little strange because I didn't even know the girl but i figured he had told her about me.After they had been dating for around four months or so he contacted me over a text message. I asked about him and his girlfriend and he said that he wasn't happy and he acted like he didn't want to be in the relationship with her anymore he was also telling me how sorry he was that we broke up and calling me on the phone to talk.Well soon after that they broke up and we got back together he told me he never really got over me and that he still loved me.Well then we broke up again the second time was because we were arguing over his trust issues and then he said the thing he knew would hurt me the most he told me that he he would never get over his ex so i broke up with him. Then he moved on really fast again he seemed a little sad for awhile because I would see on his Facebook where he would say he couldn't sleep and that his life sucked . but anyways then he said that he was happy with a new girl and that he hoped he wouldn't mess it up and so my question is how does he move on so fast? he even tried to get his ex back after we broke up and how can he move on so fast? He even had asked me to marry him and then just forgot all about me. he changes his mind so much he told me that he is bipolar. Also my other question is do you think he will try to come back again like he did the last time? I am just hurting so bad I can not even go a day without thinking about him I just feel numb i just hope he comes back and also its been a month since we last talked.Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): Well he is like any other flirt who will suspect you only coz he can't trust himself. Why do u even want him to come back? so that he can leave you once again. He is so indecisive about his life. Listen to me girl... change your number, block his ID on all the sites and tell yourself he doesn't exist. Try to socialize with sensible people and befriend others. Watch loads of movies and get yourself a genuine partner!
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Speaking as a guy, I am ashamed to say that I have moved on fast as well, of course at the time I didn't know what affect it would have on my ex.
Guys can make a fast move for several reasons.
The first, is that they honestly don't care and just move on. I would hope that your boyfriend wasn't like that though.
Second is that they are genuinely confused about who they want. I did it once, I broke up with my girl friend and decided I wanted to get with a girl who liked me. But when we realised we only broke up cause of anger I was stuck, do I break up and get back with her? Or stick with my new girl? I went back to my old girl.
The third is that its too painful to be single, so they get a new girlfriend as soon as possible.
Either way, you guys have broken up several times so its not worth getting back together.
I hope you find someone better.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, IAMDONE +, writes (25 February 2011):
I am so sorry that you are hurting and going thru relationship withdrawls. It is a difficult process to rid ourselves of feelings for other human beings who have been an inticate part of our lives. I do believe that time heals us.
As far as your boyfriend is concerned and his feelings toward you and how fast he has moved on only complicates matters more. We as woman want to feel that we are still loved and missed when a relationship comes to an end. We want the other individual to feel the same things that we are feeling. We have a desire and hope that they will come back to us because they can not live without us.
The reality of things...this is not always the case for our ex. It is certain that there is a certain amount of turmoil as they deal with a break up in their lives but some of the men I know immediately start looking for another relationship with another being. This indeed helps with those uneasy feelings after a break up!
Keep your head up and fall into a new season of things. Your heart will heal if you keep your life healthy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): Do not get back with this boy. The simple fact is he cannot be alone, he rather be with anyone than alone which is quite sad really! If I was you I pity him
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): I know you are in pain right now and Im sure you have heard this "time heals" well it is true. Time does heal. Forget about this guy. He is not emotional stable thats why he moves on from one relationship to the next. He is also very selfish all he cares about is him. You dont need that in your life. Take some time for yourself enjoy being single for a while and before you know it you will find the right person. Hang in there things will get better.
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