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30-35,
*ancermelp
writes:This guy and I were seeing each other for almost 5 months. Everything was going very well, we were compatible, we had great chemistry, we both made each other laugh and enjoyed each others company. He even introduced me to his mom. But he decided to end it all of a sudden because he said even though he still had feelings for me, he had a busy schedule and that he didn't have time for a relationship right now. After things ended, we still hooked up a couple times - and he would still tell me that he liked me, he just couldn't do a relationship right now with me or anyone at least for this semester. But then we decided to stop hooking up because we didn't want to lead things on. We still remained friends and we see each other everyday as we are in the same college. Even after that he would keep throwing mixed signals at me, which really confused me, but I decided not to think too much into them. If he heard anything about me, he would confront me about it. But then a month and half later after we were last together, (and less than a week after he invited to come over to his place to hangout) I find out through facebook just a few days ago that he's in a relationship with a girl who used to be his friend in high school and who goes to school seven hours away from us. This contradicts everything he said, because he would always say that he never wanted to be in a long distance relationship, let alone not wanting to be in a relationship right now. And I promise I really promise that I am not trying to be mean at all, and I am generally a really nice person, but a lot of my friends say that she is not that attractive...especailly compared to me and even compared him. And that's really why it's making it easier for me to handle all this. But at the same time it I'm thinking what?! This girl also got out of a relationship that last over a year right around the same time me and him started seeing each other.I don't even know how to act around him anymore...he hasn't mentioned anything about it, and I haven't either. I'm not sure if I even should or not. I know I should move on, but how was he able to move on so quickly, and lie to me about wanting a relationship or whatnot? Everyone says that he really messed up by doing this, and he shouldn't have let me go. But will he ever realize it?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 People may say that he shouldn't have let you go and that he has messed up but who knows he may have liked this girl for a long time and he may actually be happier with her. I know that hearing that is hard but it may very well be the truth. She may not look attractive, but she may have a great personality and he may like her for that, also he may find her gorgeous and she might be his type. Never judge someone on looks alone. Because it is not all about that.
I know that it is difficult for you and it is going to be hard because he has went back on his word. But either you talk to him and ask him what the story is or else you just cut him out of your life and move forward like he has. Good luck.
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