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writes: Hey there, I feel really down. I finished with my boyfriend last week who I loved so so much. I finished with him because I'm mega insecure and I was driving myself crazy worrying that he didn't like me!!!Anyway he told me he loved me and he'd never felt this way about anyone when I was with him, and he seemed so genuine. Last Saturday he went on a night out with his mates. He slept with a 35 year old woman (he's 18) and now he is crazy about her. He doesn't even seem to care about me one bit.I'm hurting so much. It makes me feel sick. Please help me.I want him to hurt like I do. But why did he tell me he loved me etc and then be able to just completley forget about me? Everyone tells me he's not worth it and to move on but I can't stop thinking about him.I'm HURTING LIKE CRAZY cos I've got a broken heart..please help :*0(
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Im sorry that you have been let down so badly like that at such a young age. It will get better I promise. The reason you cant stop thinking about him because its still new to you and you dont really want to let go, but you know you have to. You felt like you were in love with him and cared about him a great deal, and the awful so so cheated. Hes one of the few that we do come across in life that we have to put down to experience, the reason he probably told you he loved you was because he was getting what he wanted, and you may have filled a gap whilst he went and sought something else!
Now this does all sound horrible and you feel like you will never get over him, but honey you will, think about it did you really want someone like that anyway, someone that was already making you feel insecure, and at the drop of a hat went off and slept with someone else, no you didn’t, you are worth more. He didn’t deserve you. The only thing that can take away the hurt is time, I know its not much consolation, but I promise it does get better. Do things that make you feel good, and out him to the back of your mind as hard as it seems, focus on friends, getting out and about and making new friends, in a couple of months you really will be wondering why you bothered to take the time to get upset over this horrid little so and so.
Take care
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