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female
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*eenie
writes:So I'm pretty upset right now. My boyfriend of over 2 years kicked me out of his life a little under 2 weeks ago and i have't heard from him. About 3 weeks ago, i went over to his house and told him he could borrow my new ipod that i got in January. But that was before i came across the drug Bathsalts in his coat pocket when i noticed his behavior was different. I've come to this site for help before, because he's bipolar and a recovering meth addict and his behavior has been out of whack before. Anyways, he's on 2 year probation and thinks it's ok to do K2 and bathsalts because "they're legal" but he's still using them as a reason to get high. He tells me that "they make him feel like he's doing something naughty" Anyways, when i found the bathsalts, i flipped out and he noticed how i was acting and told me to "get my sh*t and leave" so i grabbed my ipod off his dresser, he noticed it was gone and came after me before i could leave his house and wrestled it out of my hands, but than when asked if he'd give it back, he said he would. Shortly thereafter, he started avoiding my calls claiming that he was working when i know his job (which he had just gotten a couple of days prior) wouldn't make him work that much just starting. Well, after a few days of calling, i finally started threatening to call the authorities to get my things back and told him that if he didn't give it back w/in 5 days, i'd be calling the police and talking to them about it. So i did, and i haven't heard from him since. I still love him w/ all my heart, and have been hurting and anxious. But @ the same time, I feel like he's been taking advantage of me this entire time because he's hidden his drug use from me time and time again. It's just beyond me, as to why he would do this to me after all the hospital visits I've paid him after having mental breakdown after mental breakdown from his using and after all the things I've been there for when he had no one else and when everyone else had already given up on him completely. All i ever wanted was a sober relationship. I'm hurting really bad right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): How could he do this to you? Simple: he's messed up. And you can't "fix" him no matter how hard you try. He has to want help, and he doesn't.
What did the police say about you getting your things back? You have a right to them, and if you can't get in contact with him, he is technically stealing your belongings. File an official police report if you haven't already. You might have to go to court, and he might get in trouble, but you don't deserve to have your things stolen.
You are much better off without this guy. It doesn't sound like he's very respectful of you. You want a sober relationship, and he can't give it to you, so it's time to move on and find someone who will.
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