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writes:My boyfriend and I have very limited time to see each other because of our jobs and him being in law school as well; so please keep in mind as I continue this story, that weekends are usually our hang-out catch-up time--my boyfriend told me on Saturday morning that he had to go grocery shopping with his mom and I said "okay, that is great." I had to go try on bridesmaids dresses with my brother's fiancée's bridesmaids anyways. So I asked him if he would help me install window treatments in my house later(which was his idea to begin with), and he said yes. So after I was done with my brother's bride-to-be I called him and asked him if he was ready. He called all huffy and said no, that he had friends coming over and he did not agree to do the windows that same day! So I said ok whatever have fun with your friends. Needless to say, I already planned on doing them that day and had nothing else planned so I just did it myself because I knew I had to make invitations for my brother's wedding on Sunday. Well then he comes over today, Sunday, at about 2pm after having brunch with his buddies and he said, "Well I see that you did it yourself..." and I was so proud and said "Yeah! Did I do a good job??" And he said it looks decent and made fun of the drill that I bought and said that his was better and got upset that I bought a drill because "he does all the drill stuff around my house." So I replied, "Well I don't know when I might need to do something on my own and I can't depend on you doing things when I need them done" (a little harsh, I know). And he said "well since you are done with that I am just going to go study for my tax law final (he's in law school) and go." And I said "All you do is hang out with your buddies and never want to do anything fun with me, it's only work stuff you want to do with me... like, working on your house and shopping for your house! Never anything fun! They get to do all the fun stuff with you!" And he yelled, "I have done so much for you!!" and took his keys and ran out and slammed the door. I was just shocked and expected to hear from him but I didn't. I texted him some sad faces and he didn't reply. I ordered his favorite food and had it specially delivered to his house with a note that it was a study gift from me and thirty minutes after the order deliverer called and confirmed to me that he received it, he texted me, "thank you" ...and that was it!! My question is, what is going on here?!?!
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 I think he got pissed off by your comment on how he spends his time with is friends..he might be a sensitive kind of guy. I guess he felt bad that you didn't appreciate his efforts of helping you ( drilling, etc ) in your house.It's like, after all these things I did to you, you don't appreciate them? You were the one who was with him, so you read from his reaction, at what area of the conversation he got mad at.Your not acknowledging his efforts? Your comment o n how he spends his time with his friends? or Your buying of the drill in which he felt insulted.Maybe he thought you bought it because he refused to come on the day you would have wanted him to come..whatever is his reason for getting angry, you should talk it out with him.. Leave him for a while to blow his top. When he's done, talk to him to straighten the issue.. this is a typical miscommunication resulting to misunderstanding.. Let his steam off. Everything will be settled..
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