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writes:I am a female pisces/aries cusp (34 years old) ,dating a male virgo/libra cusp (28 years old). How compatible are we? Because both our signs are on a cusp there is alot of conflicting information. I would appreciate any insight. Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Aries starts on March 21st so you're definitely an Aries but you will have a little bit of Pisces in you too (which could make you quite emotional), much more of Aries though. Your partner is definitely a Virgo as Libra starts on September 23rd.First of all, to everyone who says astrology is a waste of time then that is your opinion but I disagree. Reading your horoscope in newspapers for example can be a bit of a hit and a miss but if you have a proper chart drawn up then it can be incredibly accurate. Your star sign or sun sign as it's sometimes called is just a guide and depending where the other planets are placed in your chart will give you a much more accurate reading. "You cant really determine if you and him are compatable simply by comparing your zodiac signs..." Oh yes you can! I have studied astrology for years now and use it in my work all the time. When I meet people for the first time I can usually tell their sign just by observing them and talking to them for a while.It can work with you and your partner. He can be very pernickity and notices details and small print whereas you can miss this and see the bigger picture. You come up with some great with ideas but can tire of them easily whereas your virgo partner can finish off the finer points that you miss. He needs far less of a glamour girl and more of a woman he can enjoy talking to and because he is so insecure, he seeks a woman secure enough with herself to make him feel more comfortable. However to fall madly in love, he has to be mentally swept away by someone so intelligent and competent that she gains the golden gift of his respect.Basically he’s looking for perfection. And even if he found it, he would suggest a few improvements. However, in terms of a woman, perfection for him has less to do with physical appeal than with intelligence, emotional strength and charisma. Essentially, he wants a woman he can respect and in order to gain that respect you need to be able to stimulate him. Stupidity repels him, as does mental, emotional or moral weakness. Because he is a man who cares a lot about what others think, he places a tremendous emphasis on dignity, poise, and self possession. Essentially, what he wants most is to love someone he can look up to. However, because he is so critical, it is rare that he finds that perfect person and instead he can end up settling for someone comfortable whom he tries his best to improve.Make him at ease with himself while you massage his ego. And at all times make him feel emotionally secure. If he feels he’s competing with a football field of men he’ll crawl off to his study with a very big book~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): If we told you that your star signs suggested that you were incompatable, would you actually break off the relationship over that?
I hope to goodness that you wouldn't!
So, then, why would you ask?
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reader, LIL'bit2much +, writes (29 April 2009):
LIL'bit2much is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy bday is 3/21/75 and his is 9/21/80. We just started dating almost two weeks ago and everything is going pretty fast.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 April 2009):
Can I ask what ARE your actual dates of birth?
~Eve~
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (29 April 2009):
 I wouldn't really base it on the zodiac signs you both have. There may be a few personality traits in your zodiac sign that may apply to each of you but the bigger factor is more than that. It's life experiences, family lifestyles, values, spirituality, and common goals and interests. Knowing your b/f's family background will dictate more about his behavior than whether he was born in August or not. It may take some time before you understand how he's wired and how the two of you will mesh together in the long run. Just take it one day at a time and as you discover the differences about each other, you'll learn what the deal-breakers are, or how to navigate around the smaller things. That's why it's so important not to rush into a marriage until you've been with each other for awhile. I had stars in my eyes about my current man for the first year we were together, but over time I learned about his dark side; coming from a very domineering father who was also a bit verbally abusive, I have seen those patterns repeated in my man. I still love him, but I don't see us ever getting married because we are just too different and I don't mind being with him for now, but I don't want to be with someone permanently that doesn't treat women with more respect. You'll figure it out in time. Just take it slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): Astrology is rubbish. You should look for things such as: do you enjoy the same or similar kinds of activities, i.e., going bowling; dancing; hiking, reading, music - and since music is so varied, do you like or dislike the same kinds.
You also should think of how much (or how little!!) you enjoy spending time together. Another thing to think about is this: EVERYONE has little quirks or oddities. Can you tolerate his and vice versa, or do they drive you up the wall?
How well do you handle differences of opinion? Do either of you tend to fly off the handle and get angry easily, or can you (when calmed down) talk it over and come to some sort of compromise which is acceptable to you both?
Are you able to see situations from his point or view?
There is no quick and easy way to determine compatibility (unless of course one of you is so ill-mannered, sloppy or rude,so that its immediately very clear you are definitely not a good match!).
This is just for starters - but these are some of the ways to begin to know if you are compatible together.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 April 2009):
 I though that was the who point of astrology, hearing what you want to hear to reassure you when you don't have the earthly answers.
Seriously I think it is quite narrow minded to say that everyone born in one month has certain traits and are not compatible with other stars signs.
I was born in September and I think Astrology is rubbish, do all Virgos think like this?
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (28 April 2009):
 you cant tell compatibility by comparing zodiac signs.
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reader, LIL'bit2much +, writes (28 April 2009):
LIL'bit2much is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSure they will take my money but u never get a real answer like that, they feed u what they think u want.
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reader, Idiosyncratic +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You cant really determine if you and him are compatable simply by comparing your zodiac signs, he could be perfect but then he could be the complete opposite, you never know till you try ;)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 April 2009):
Try an Astrology website! I'm sure there are plenty that will take your money.
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