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writes: My ex is my best friend.We still talk all the time about everything. He's my source of advice and my best confidante. He keeps me grounded. He understands me so perfectly and can read my every mood or action. I don't know how he does it. It's like he knows as much what's in my mind as I do. We broke up about two months ago. Not much has changed, except since our breakup I've been in crazy relationships since that don't really work and I don't really wanna be in. I'm just in them to fill the void of knowing he doesn't love me anymore. I still love him SO much. He knows, I know, my recent boyfriends have all known that any guy really comes second in my heart to him.(Im young, I know. Many say I'm too young to even know what I'm saying at 15.)He always tells me when I feel awful that he'll always always be there for me. He'll never leave me. And I'm so beautiful and deserve so much better than the guys I've been with lately. With my most recent bf, I went farther physically than my purity vow allows but I think I did it to compensate, and maybe make myself happier, not miss my ex so much. If these guys know I want my ex, am I using them?How do I proceed with my ex? Is this how I should be handling it, going on as per the usual?Is there anyway I can get over him faster?Why can't I let this first love go?Thanks so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHahaha, thank you so much. I really needed someone to say exactly that. The things I knew were true, but I was trying to deny in my head. He's the best friend a girl could ever have, and I shouldn't let myself let that go.
However, yes, he understands me like another extension of myself, but he doesn't always TREAT me well. He always says the right things, but if ever I make a mistake that makes him mad, hell still talk to me, but actions speak louder than words and he abandons me.
That's the worst thing about him, so I don't have much to complain about.
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reader, Wreck  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Yes you are using them... , but your using them to your advantage... which is no good.. because your hurting them if they like you ... , for example if a guy broke up with his girl and got hurt and did the same thing that you did just get with girls and you ended up being one of those girls it would hurt you to know you where just a rebound.... , I would suggest not doing those things because you can do something you will regret which you already did but theres always time to change ... Why cant you let go of him??? you answered your own question already because he treats you like a queen ... , you know the best thing you can do is stay cool with him because he seems to be there emotionally even though hes not your boy freind and thats a real freind ... so even though he is not your boy freind no one ever said you guys cant love each other as freinds ... , its better then not being there for each other at all... , and if he does like you trust he will realize it later... dont ask him to much about relationships though or anythign like that because some guys get bothered by it just keep it cool you know he sounds like a great freind if he tells you all those things
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