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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:When I first started dating my BF I was really carefree, nothing bothered me and everything was just great. We’ve now been together for about 6 months and lately I find that little things like him not replying to my texts quickly annoy me, or that he sometimes doesn’t seem too enthusiastic to hang out. Logically I understand that he might be tied up and can’t reply as quickly as I expect him to or that sometimes he’s tired and isn’t too upbeat when we go out, but my mind always thinks something is wrong between us if he’s acting like this. These are all petty things and he hasn’t given me any other reason to feel annoyed or insecure or whatever. Just last week he told me that I mean a lot to him and that losing me would be the worst thing that could happen to him.So what is my problem? Why am I suddenly so insecure? I don’t want to become clingy, and I don’t want to nag. I just can’t help it and I don’t know how to stop. I know I need to stop because I will drive myself insane and I could potentially ruin what I have with him.I have a busy job, I have my own friends, I have other interests but it still doesn’t help me to get distracted. Argh!
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reader, scythe +, writes (25 February 2010):
 You remind me of myself :)
I still get a bit annoyed when by boyfriend takes a while to reply to messages, especially when I reply quickly. However, I used to be a lot worse and I think it was due to the type of contraceptive pill I was taking. It was making me apathetic and depressive as well. So, if you're taking the pill, you might want to consider changing brands to one with lower levels of hormones or different varieties of hormones.
Other than that, keep rationalising why he hasn't replied - do it until it sinks in, put yourself in his shoes. Discuss it with him in a casual way... like "im so silly, i get annoyed when you don't reply" just to let him know it bothers you.
Hope these ideas help!
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