How can you tell if a guy actually likes you, or is just attracted to you?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

There's a guy I really like at my work and I am having trouble figuring out if he actually likes me or is just attracted to me. He'll always joke around with me and when I'm telling him something, regardless of how big or small, he'll give me this look almost like this in depth stare not creepy at all but he'll make me his main focus and will always act truly interested in whatever it is I'm saying. His face changes when I talk to him, his face lights up and his eyes look brighter. Sometimes I get stressed out and if I mess up he's never gotten mad at me but will always tell me it's okay, even when I do something completely stupid because I get nervous when he's around. He always makes me feel protected. He remembers my quirks and doesn't seem to judge me but seems to find them endearing, and will joke around with me about them whenever he gets the chance but not in a mean way at all. He has said I'm cute before but he didn't mean it in a way related to looks but in how I act because of some of my habits like not eating the crust of my sandwich haha. He seems interested by me, but I still can't tell if he's just in an awe because I'm attractive or if he sees and wants more. Even though we talk a lot sometimes there are these moments where we'll walk by each other and it's so awkward if we don't say anything. It's almost like there's so much that could be said and ther's this looming elephant in the room. Sometimes I don't know what to say or do around him and I feel like I make him feel the same way.

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