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writes:HiIve been wondering something recently... would love people's takes on it- particularly men!My bf is best friends with a girl he says he "used to think he loved" This was years ago but she rejected him. However he still talks to her everyday (on fb messenger) My question is... how can you be so PLATONICALLY close to someone that you used to have feelings for? He says she means a lot to him, but things do seem platonic she has a bf he likes etc. Do you guys think it's BS?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it's weird :/ I mean on the plus he doesn't call her, just fb chat (I dont have fb)
He said once he'd never felt this way about a woman before to me, and does text me, show signs of love.
Another thing he's insecure about his looks/ physique, and he's kindof sheltered with girls, lost his V to me at 26, and only had one gf, excluding me it did occur that maybe he likes the attention from an.attractive girl?
I am.attractive myself btw
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 January 2017):
 If it was me I would be worried about the need for contact daily. Sounds like it is friendship from her side, but he has probably is kidding himself that it is platonic on his side. Am sure he has some feelings for her. However that doesn't mean he would cheat on you. But if you are not comfortable with the daily contact then you need to talk to him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2017): I think he still has feelings for her. HOWEVER- I think many young men fool themselves into thinking they are "modern" and "open-minded" and they truly kid themselves into thinking they can be just friends with a female, let alone a prior crush. I personally think that most of the time they are living in denial...if they think this other female is so great, even just personality wise, then why wouldn't they be attracted to her?I think every day is WAY TOO MUCH to be messaging anyone! LOL even if it was a guy friend I would think that was a little crazy obsessive. I have had boyfriends who did the whole "close female friends" thing, and while I told myself I was fine with it at the time, I am SOOOO much happier now that I am with a man who is old school and doesn't believe that male-female friendships should go much beyond the workplace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2017): I'm a girl and I wouldnt be happy with this tbh, neither would my brother who is here..
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