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writes: How to start a office romance in low proflie?My manager is fond of me, he didn't approach me, however, he has been sending me lot of love signals + body languages, I know he is serious.How should I reponse to him, when he looks into my eyes, all the while, I just either pretend that I didn't see it or returned him with a no-expression face, am I doing this wrong, Im a shy person.Please help me.Thank you
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (3 September 2006):
 A lot of traditional Japanese men prefer the housewife type woman, but not all.
I think you should maybe read up on the Japanes culture, I find it very interesting, as I do with the language.
I speak almost fluent Japanese, (mainly through martial arts) but find the language to be as beautiful as its culture.
Maybe you could compliment him in Japanese, it would surprise him to say the least.
Something like, Sore yoku niau yo
(that looks nice on you)
Maybe then you can be less subtle, Chotto yotte ikanai?
Do you want to come to my place for a while?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all,
Im the sender of this question, yes, I agree with you guys, dating my boss is something that I should not cross my mind,
lot of worried and hesitation.
He is not married, and we are around the same age, as we are working together closely, both are still single....
I know Im playing with fire, if it is not workable, furthermore, I know nothing much of him regarding his personnal life, btw, he is a Japanese, as you may know, during office hours, they are serious workers.
There do have cases in our office and our head quarter on office romance, the couple have to keep in low profile and have to be very careful & secretive about it, till they decided to get married, the girl has to resign. In normal practise, Japanaese guys prefer their wives to be a housewives after married, this is their culture.
Anymore comments, please share your precious view with me.
Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all,
Im the sender of this question, yes, I agree with you guys, dating my boss is something that I should not cross my mind,
lot of worried and hesitation.
He is not married, and we are around the same age, as we are working together closely, both are still single....
I know Im playing with fire, if it is not workable, furthermore, I know nothing much of him regarding his personnal life, btw, he is a Japanese, as you may know, during office hours, they are serious workers.
There do have cases in our office and our head quarter on office romance, the couple have to keep in low profile and have to be very careful & secretive about it, till they decided to get married, the girl has to resign. In normal practise, Japanaese guys prefer their wives to be a housewives after married, this is their culture.
Anymore comments, please share your precious view with me.
Thank you
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reader, bonym +, writes (2 September 2006):
 My first question to you is, is he married?
My second question is, do you really want to be involved with your manager sexually and as partners as he is your manager first and foremost?
Dr Psych to me has covered everything, great advice she has given to you here, like she says, you need to very careful, what if your relationship comes to an abrubt end, can you continue working there?
There are so many pros to dating your boss, that they really can outweigh the pros, which all I can think of are the thrill of being in a relationship with someone who perhaps ought to be forbidden from us.
Think carefully, is it worth it? xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 September 2006):
 You have to be VERY careful here, especially if you like your job.
1. He is your boss, say you date him and it doesn't work out - you still have to see him at work and to make matters worse he is your boss! If the relationship goes bad he may take it out on you professionally as well as personally.
2. He is in a position of authority over you at work. How to make sure that power difference does not affect your dating/ personal life is a tricky problem to climb over!
3. He is your boss and should conduct himself professionally. If he is being flirty with you, how can you be sure he is not flirting with other ladies in the office...or doesn't have a habit of using his professional power over employees for personal gain.
4. What is your company policy on office romance? Many companies ban it (distracting for work productivity, unprofessional etc). It can also do some damage to your promotion prospects as your professional integrity comes into question when you are seeing the boss (...whatever the rights and wrongs of that).
5. You can expect to be the subject of gossip...sooner or later someone at work will bump into you pair at a pub or restaurant. Be very prepared for slurs on your character (...she is sleeping her way to the top bla, bla, bla).
Some people do make a go of it, and many people meet their partner through work. I have a friend who got into a bad fling situation with her boss though and she was mortified every time she saw him at work afterwards...which was very often as their desks were closeby. She left a great job on great money because the tension got so bad for her. Think carefully!
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