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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:A close friend of mine has had a pretty hard life. She's been abused by her controlling and highly religious father because she is a lesbian, and she has been raped by a guy she thought was her friend. Now, she obviously has some pretty deeply ingrained issues, a major one being that she thinks she doesn't deserve to be treated well by her girlfriends. The girl she is with she has been with for over a year. this lady constantly gripes at her and makes her feel bad for things she shouldn't, like having an opinion. Another one of my friends, a lovely girl with a huge heart, a wonderfully funny personality, and cute to boot has feelings for this abused girl, but she refuses to be with someone who will respect her due to her mental blocks. This friend of mine and I are at a loss as to how to reach this battered girl. Aside from reminding her often of how great she is and trying to mkae her feel loved as our friend, is there anything we can do to help our damaged buddy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Just be there for her,it will help her just to know that she has someone to lean on if she ever needs it.Giving a person time is the best way to heal them.I had a friend who could not help herself and in the end neither could I.Sometimes it happens that way but not always.The only thing you can do is be a shoulder,but try not to push. Always forgive her the mistakes she makes.
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