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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there everyone. I'm not sure what to think about my girlfriend. I'm normally really good at reading people and I've just been having trouble this time. My girlfriend and I met online and have been together 3 months. Yes I know, I don't need all the comments about long distance and stuff. Anyways, recently she hasn't been opening up to me. She gets upset when I don't open up to her, but she won't open up to me when something is wrong. She told me from day 1 that she has trust issues and would never fully trust me. Then one time she told me she trusts me 100%. She hasn't hidden any of her past when asked about it. She has done plenty of bad things yet doesn't regret a single one, including getting naked at a party and having a picture of it sent around school. She just told me that it was fun and she didn't care. The picture happend while we were dating but she failed to mention it til a week after it happened. She said it just slipped her mind :/ But the problem is her getting mad and not talking to me. We both think this relationship could last a long time but it doesn't feel like she wants to put the effort into it. I find it hypocritical of her to expect me to be totally open but she won't open up to me. She just closes off and tells me to forget about it, even if it's something that's important and quite obviously bothers her. She also doesn't tell people that she has a boyfriend, including her ex, who she still talks to as much as she talks to me. Yes, I know they have feelings for each other stil, I'm not clueless. I know they've slept in the same bed since her and I have been dating and I wasn't happy about it and she got mad at me and said it wasn't a big deal. She doesn't tell her friends who she now talks to as much as, if not more than, me. She tells me I'm an amazing boyfriend but since she doesn't tell anyone it's like she's ashamed or something. She also has a habit of making jokes that aren't the best. Such as saying she would have sex with her ex, break up with me if she had the chance to travel, stuff like that. Yet when I try to talk to her about she gets mad and goes back to closing up. It sometimes seems like she just doesnt't care anymore. I honestly don't know what to do. Sorry about the rant but any feedback is appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): What you can "read" about this girl is right in front of you. She's no good. She sounds selfish and unfaithful.
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reader, janna03  +, writes (8 April 2011):
Firstly, try your best to talk with her and tell her you need to be open with each other. If she gets mad and closes the topic, she might be hiding something. That's why she doesn't want to elaborate the conversation. In my opinion, it's not good to maintain communication with ex's.. let her choose between you and the ex, as you have said she might still have feelings for her ex. But why do you choose to stay with her? By the way, jokes are half meant. Sometimes we make jokes because we can't say directly what we want to say..
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