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36-40,
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writes:I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm nervous about the last time I saw my boyfriend. I was really turned on like the first 5 minutes he was there, but after a couple days, we'd go out and he'd get tipsy or drunk [because he was going to be gone for a long time, and sort of wanted to dull the pain], but I found myself trying to get tipsy/drunk so that I felt horny enough to have sex with him. I know that sounds horrible, I AM attracted to him, and I DO love him, but I haven't reached orgasm yet with him, and it's not like we have many opportunities to, [the last time I saw him was 6 months ago, and it's a military situation]... I use toys with him a lot, that's nice but sometimes they get in the way/I like it to be just the two of us, and I think he doesn't like being number 2 sometimes. I feel like my clit is extra sensitive when I drink, and I like that, but I definitely think it's problematic, relying on alcohol for sex, especially because I have a low tolerance and it's not romantic, convincing my guy that I'm fine to have sex and then in the morning wondering if I had sex the night before, it's disrespectful to both of us. I know there's that heating up lube, any testers out there? or are there other products one can apply to the clit [and I don't mean tongue or finger :p] to make it more sensitive? I know my guy just needs to get his technique down, and that old fashioned trying will probably be the best solution, but like I said we have limited chances for that, and I want to be more ready for him when he is too, you know? Please don't judge me about the drinking, this scenario makes me sound like an alcoholic, when I go months without having anything, and when I do it's still less than 5 drinks and this is a habit I'm obviously trying to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Time, time, time. Cuddle for 2 hours in bed completely sober. No toys, no fast solutions. smell each other kiss a lot... try to do it during the day when you are both energetic. Also take time that he learns from you.
good luck
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