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writes: This is to know if somebody has any advice or past experiences on ex girlfriends like this...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost three months now....Everything is wonderful but one thing...his ex is still making his life miserable even after all she put him through..she hit him, cheated on him, manipulated him and his money...and just when we thought it was over....she called him and said she has a new boyfriend and she changed her cell phone but her old one she owes 500$ on it and she cancelled it so put 200$ more on it...the thing is: it was under my boyfriend's name and credit card...he has to try to settle this but if she doesn't pay it then he goes into credit and has to pay it all off...he's paid so much stuff for her already..he's so stressed and sad about this he says I'm the only one who makes him forget his problems and be happy....It's killing me inside cuz I wish I could do something for him..anybody can help about this situation or how to get rid of a destructive girl like that?
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reader, camille  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 This is actually your boyfriend's problem, not yours and although it's nice you're upset for him, these things happen, try not to worry about her. It's probably 'killing you inside' because you have strong feelings for him, but that seems quite a dramatic statement does it not? Just be there for him and be supportive but don't get dragged into anything as it's not your concern. I'm wondering if it's just that you don't like the existence of the ex (understandably in this case), but she will get bored and stop bothering you soon enough. Ignoring her is the best thing, once the money has been settled.
He needs to sort out the money issues as bad credit run up by someone else is very bad. He should have cancelled the phone immediately and if he hasn't yet, that's his first job. The he needs to let the phone company know what's happening (they will still hold him liable for the debt as it's in his name). He then contacts the ex, asks her to make a payment (or monthly payments) to pay off what she owes. If she refuses and he can prove all of this, he can maybe drop a few heavy words like 'fraud', 'police' etc. If she agrees, arrange a payment plan with phone company as they'll probably take installments. Unless of course your boyfriend's prepared to pay the debt, but that's his choice. Other than that, pay her no more attention, get on with your life
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