| A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: hey aunts,So I've got a boyfriend of just over 9 months, and we reeeally want to start moving forward with hanjobs and blowjobs, maybe but we cant find the chance to be alone for very long. We went to a movie to try it, but i was nervous about all the people there.Can you help me?
View related questions:
blow-job, oral sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, daletom  +, writes (21 January 2008):
One reason you can't manage to be alone is because you are probably too young for this kind of activity - petting, outercourse, fooling around, bundling, or whatever you call it. Back off from the physical sensuality a little. There's still a lot for you two to discover about each other and yourselves as people.
If you try to sneak around and do this behind your parents' backs you will probably reinforce the idea that you are NOT mature enough or responsible enough to be trusted in your relationship. They might even forbid you from doing anything more than holding hands (with gloves on) until after you have graduated from medical school and established your own practice. Well, maybe not THAT long, but they can make it SEEM like that long!
A
female
reader, joanna_690  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 i had the same problem when i first started to go out with my boyfriend
we finally decided to lock the bedroom door and put music on quite loud
this doesnt exactly solve the problem but it does make you feel at ease and surprisingly quite safe that your not going to get caught =P
maybe you could try something like this until you find a way to resolve your privacy issue
hope this helps at least a little =)
...............................
A
male
reader, Moviefan +, writes (21 January 2008):
 I dont know if its a good idea to do that at your age but thats your decision and it cant hurt as long as he hasnt done this with a bunch of girls or has symptoms of std's. But do not go all the way at your age you are not emotionally or financially ready for the act of sex. I can not stress this enought.And if your boyfriend is pushing you to do this and you really dont want to, tell him this, dont let him pressure you. And if he doesnt listen dump him. If he isnt willing to wait then he isnt worth your time. It may be hard to do this but it is the right action.First off do not do it in public places like a movie theater someone is likely to notice and if you get caught you can be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of your life. Your best chance i suppose would be your house or his house or possibly a friends house when there parents are not home if its allowed for you to be there then.I hope i helped.
...............................
|
